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My turn to Vent

grandmoon — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:13:00 GMT

I have been with my OH since 1988. He retired last October since then his sister has been trying to talk him into going home to live. He has been in Australia since 1971. He doesn't want to go home to live. His sister wants him to buy a unit at home for her to live in Oh boy the emotion blackmail she has been applying is unbeliveable. I am so angry as the unit she wants him to buy her will take all his super and in buy it it will effect his pension. She still wants him to buy it for her.

He is now saying that it means he will have to go back to work again.

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twyngwyn — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:14:57 GMT

where is 'home'? What is the culture?

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sandym3369 — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:16:51 GMT

Who does she think she is. Sounds like it is just all about her. Time to tell her straight not hogging back home. And not buying her somewhere to live . Why should you suffer in life for her.

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purple_haize — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:22:35 GMT

He should tell her firmly NO.

Where is home?

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kengillard — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:25:49 GMT

agree with all the above......need some more info?

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grandmoon — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:30:10 GMT

Home is Croatia

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azureline** — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:31:24 GMT

Since you are a couple, won't this also affect you and your pension? and your security?

I think she is very rude.

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purple.cow — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:31:33 GMT

Home is Croatia

That bit of info speaks volumes 😞

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purple_haize — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:37:18 GMT

Hasnt she got a husband?

I dont know much about Croatia, but is it something that is generally done over there, what she is wanting?

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grandmoon — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 05:42:27 GMT

Since you are a couple, won't this also affect you and your pension? and your security?

I think she is very rude.

I have a superannuation pension so it won't effect mine. I have been argueing with him about her POOR ME attitude.

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kengillard — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 06:39:36 GMT

grandmoon....you need some financial/legal advice...and quickly:-x

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cherry*135 — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 06:54:45 GMT

Why does his sister think he should spend money buying a property for her (which he or you will have no use for eventually)? He is not single, she shouldn't expect a great whack of his money to be spent on her.

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daydream**believer — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 07:02:59 GMT

Youve been a couple for quite a while. Do you not get a say in what he does with the money?

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grandmoon — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 07:57:15 GMT

Why does his sister think he should spend money buying a property for her (which he or you will have no use for eventually)? He is not single, she shouldn't expect a great whack of his money to be spent on her.

While his parents were alive Croatia was a communist country and he would send them money each 3 months to mark sure they had enough for food. His sister still thinks that she should get what the parents did. The word that comes to mind is selfish bi***h

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bella_again — Fri, 29 Mar 2013 09:22:25 GMT

In all honesty he needs to put in place some clear boundaries to enable her to be responsible for her own life. From the little I understand about Croatia its a very poor country and I am not saying he shouldn't help her but I do think there needs to be a line drawn in the sand.

Def not fair on you 😞