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What is a Reasonable Time

grandmoon — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 22:05:42 GMT

after the death of ones partner to remarry.

I was asked this question by a man who thinks that is deceased son wife should not be even considering re marrying?

His son died 5 years ago.

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

kengillard — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 22:12:55 GMT

I'd think 5 years is a reasonable time.

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

siggie-reported-by-alarmists — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 22:13:27 GMT

That is her decision to make....and her new partners.

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

kyliecrv — Fri, 08 Nov 2013 22:34:25 GMT

I don't think the family of the deceased person will ever feel like its time for the widow/er to move on.
They will often feel like their loved one is being 'replaced' .
(That's been my experience)

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

alexander*beetle — Sat, 09 Nov 2013 01:08:55 GMT

My mum died when I was little. My dad remarried within 6 months. 😞 Far too soon for me as I hadn't had time to adjust to my mum being gone. Though everyone is different and it is up to each person. Just saying that for me, it was too soon.

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

moaningmyrtle11 — Sat, 09 Nov 2013 01:33:12 GMT

My Father married within 9 months. I think men will remarry more quickly than women.

Men don't seem to cope being on ther own so well after being married.

Women might enjoy being their own person for awhile. Perhaps.

Re: What is a Reasonable Time

cherry*135 — Sat, 09 Nov 2013 03:10:10 GMT

It would depend on individual circumstances. If a father is left with young children to care for, they may be looking for someone else sooner rather than later, especially if they are not the sort to cope with running a household and managing day to day life of their children

I know a relative who remarried fairly soon after his wife died and her family were outraged. The wife and had an affair and had left him for 6mths one time but returned. I was pleased he found someone else.

Often when someone partnered knows they have a terminal illness they tell their partner they want them to remarry and get on with their life.

Glenn McGrath married again 20 months after his beloved wife died.

I would say 12 months minimum bereavement period.