topic Do parents these days in Community Spirit

Do parents these days

crystal**flake — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:33:43 GMT

Pay for weddings???

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imastawka — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:38:43 GMT

Nope

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kopenhagen5 — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:43:20 GMT

Gladly, if the union is genuine.

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cezm — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:43:25 GMT

Yup!

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lurker172602 — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:45:16 GMT

Partially. We decided on an amount we were prepared to contribute, her parents did the same and the couple chose how much they were able to spend. I think it worked out about thirds.

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youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:46:56 GMT

some dont

some do, and want all the control

some pay for somethings and the bride and groom-to-be pay for other things

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lurker172602 — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:50:49 GMT

Have you got a wedding happening Crystal?

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crystal**flake — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:52:29 GMT

Lurker not yet, but we talk about this all the time.

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crystal**flake — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 11:53:12 GMT

I dont wont to throw money at a wedding, I'd rather give them the money for a house.

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lurker172602 — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 12:00:50 GMT

And that's the choice you need to make. I don't think there are any rules these days. Ours already had their house, they wanted the "wedding". We chose how much we wanted to contribute to that. After that it was their choice.

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the_great_she_elephant — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 13:22:22 GMT

According to Mr Elephant, the length of a marriage is inversely proportional to the amount spent on the wedding.

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j*oono — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 13:56:12 GMT

Parents can't be expected to pay for the wedding at today's prices. I'd offer to cater for a back yard wedding and wear a nice dress.

In the old days when the parents paid for it that is how it was. Simple church wedding and a reception at home or locally. Not like now when the guests have to arrive in Honolulu for a sunset wedding on the beach and snorkelling for wedding photos.

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azureline** — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 21:22:43 GMT

We gave each of our children the money, an equal amount, boy or girl, for them to spend however they chose.

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lloydslights — Wed, 04 Jun 2014 21:30:03 GMT

I am 1 of 5 daughters. Dad didn't pay for any wedding and we were each married in a Registry Office with a dinner at a restaurant following. I'll also add, we were still living at home till the wedding night.

He gave us a certain amount of money from which we bought household goods like a fridge or washing machine. Just as well; we all ended up divorced.

None of our selections was "just like Dad" - they were all spendthrifts.

DEB

Re: Do parents these days

azureline** — Thu, 05 Jun 2014 05:18:20 GMT

do you still have the fridge?