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Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 23:24:24 GMT

Hi all you hooligans 🙂 Long time - hope all is good.

I dont know where else to ask anyone so here I am.............

Can anyone tell me if they have experience with?:

A beautiful sister girl, who i call Mum (but clearly isnt) has just been diagnosed with both liver and bowel cancer.

So my question: What is this? 2 cancers found at same time? Same cancer in 2 spots? Do liver and bowel share the same cancer?

If someone says they have bowel cancer is that just a cancer that can get in the bowel?

I know those questions sound dumb but she is asking me (for some reson people think I know everything and I really know very little) so I am asking you lot cos there are heaps of you and youve been through stuff.

Doc has told her that they wont be deciding anything for 3 weeks - is this normal??

Any one know this stuff? This sucks 😞

Thanks

Re: Cancer questions :(

love*today — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 23:27:36 GMT

That does suck 😞 I'm sorry to hear it Lobs

Re: Cancer questions :(

purple_haize — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 23:35:49 GMT

Lobs, sorry to hear this.

In my mothers family there is/was alot of different cancers.

My mother had ovarian cancer and it spread to her liver, before she died.

With cancer there are so many different ones, some spread & that is how it can be in more than one place, alot depends on how early the cancer is detetected.

Some cancers dont spread, some are worse than others.

I think the best place to get the answers you want, is to talk to your GP or the Anti Cancer Council are good as well.

Re: Cancer questions :(

debra9275 — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 23:43:01 GMT

hi Lobs,

so sorry to hear this

I think the best thing for her to do would be to write a list of questions so that next ime she sees the doctor she can ask them the things she''s unclear about

sorry I don't know the answers

Re: Cancer questions :(

katydidthat — Thu, 07 Aug 2014 23:50:33 GMT

Hey Lobs!!!

Sorry to hear about this. There is a load of information on the web about all kinds of cancers - causes, symptoms, treatments, and everything.

Have a google and check a few different sites.

Re: Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:07:54 GMT

Just like that *BANG* and your whole freaken world cahnges 😞

I know know know we need answers from the Doctor

They dont wanna see her for 3 weeks and the internet info is so much I just thought people here know more LOL - that sounds wierd but you know what I mean.

50 this year peeps - thats all she is 😞

We have decided its gonna be a quick day surgery, whip out junk off the liver and bowel and alls good to go. No chemo no nuffin - now doesnt that sound good 🙂 Keep the faith people!!

Cheers

Re: Cancer questions :(

polksaladallie — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:14:33 GMT

I wouldn't wait three days. I would find another doctor today.

Re: Cancer questions :(

katymatey* — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:17:24 GMT

Lobs, sorry to hear. Perhaps this is somewhere to get some answers.

http://www.cancervic.org.au/ask-an-expert/

Re: Cancer questions :(

sineaterdoodah — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:17:35 GMT

i want to help,but that means revealing too much here,could you maybe PM me?

and yes,3 weeks is normal for the first diagnosis,and a GOOD sign,jhust so you both know.:)

i know you have no idea who i am,and i'm a yank,all that jaz,but i WOULD like to help,if i can.:)

Re: Cancer questions :(

j*oono — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:24:01 GMT

Hi Lobs. I'm sorry about this news but she has her chin up and that will help.

I think one of the hardest things is the waiting game. My sister in law was told with her last scan that it will be another two months before they would check her again. Lung cancer.

It is like Purple said I think. It starts with one cancer and then it spreads to another part of the body. Then it is a metastatic cancer. I had to look that one up so I can't really help you either.

Re: Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:25:09 GMT

Oh God - wonder why we need another Doctor?

But then I read 3 weeks is good.................

Thanks katy 🙂

Sineater - Nah i dont know you but thanks! I have never met a yank and I have some questions for you LOL not about this but American stuff LOL - At some stage I will ask you that.

This arvo i will message you re this and thanks for your offer to help a stranger - It is much appreciated 🙂

Re: Cancer questions :(

purple_haize — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:32:37 GMT

Lobs...........dont take much notice of what you read on Dr. Google, the info there isnt always right.

The anti cancer council will give you alot of info and I agree get a second opinion and dont wait for 3 weeks as in that 3 weeks alot could happen.

I have lost most of my maternal relatives to cancer including my mum, I know what you are going through and it isnt good, but please suggest to go get a second opinion.

(((HUGS)))

Re: Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:35:52 GMT

Thankyou Purps 🙂

there is so many types of bloody cancers - thats the problem

And when people are too shy or scared or whatever to ask the Doctors - we are scared of Docs and hospitals Oh God we scared of hospitals so no one asks any thing and then they ask me LOL 😐

I will research

Cheers

Re: Cancer questions :(

cherry*135 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 00:37:29 GMT

Lobs I think your friend needs the opportunity to ask her Dr these questions now.

It would be good if she got an appt with him/her to do this. If you or someone else could go with her it would be best, as there will be lots to take in, and she mightn't be able to process it all.

Re: Cancer questions :(

purple_haize — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:02:06 GMT

@lobs211 wrote:
Thankyou Purps 🙂

there is so many types of bloody cancers - thats the problem

And when people are too shy or scared or whatever to ask the Doctors - we are scared of Docs and hospitals Oh God we scared of hospitals so no one asks any thing and then they ask me LOL 😐

I will research

Cheers

Being scared of drs. and hospitals is understandable, but you have to go with her to the dr. as AM said, there is alot to take in and she will need your support.

The sooner you get this friend to go to the hospital/dr. to find out, the sooner something can be done.........drs. always say, the sooner you see the dr, if you have any cancer symptoms the more chance you have of it not spreading. the sooner treatment is started the better.

I can understand you/her being scared, but she needs another opinion and treatment started as soon as possible.

Re: Cancer questions :(

love*today — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:07:46 GMT

Surely in your town they have aboriginal staff that she could consult with.

Everywhere is culturally trained nowadays so she should be treated and her beliefs treated with respect.

Up here we just opened our first aboriginal doctors, I hope it makes a difference.....I believe it will.

Re: Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:10:02 GMT

They said 3 weeks?

And she is not my friend, she is my sister, she is more my mum - I call her mum 😞

Thanks

Re: Cancer questions :(

lobs211 — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:12:44 GMT

Love, they have a KLO (koori liaison officer) yes they do

And I said the same thing - lets get her to ask all the questions and then give us the answers LOL but you know what these stubborn peeps are like in a small town LOL "This my business - not hers"

ha ha OMG!

I probly end up goin behind Mums back and doing exactly that, we need some info

Cheers

Re: Cancer questions :(

purple_haize — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:14:12 GMT

@lobs211 wrote:
They said 3 weeks?

And she is not my friend, she is my sister, she is more my mum - I call her mum 😞

Thanks

Still if it was me, I would go get another opinion, it doesnt hurt to do that.

Re: Cancer questions :(

love*today — Fri, 08 Aug 2014 01:16:13 GMT

I would get your mum to give you permission to speak with doctors for her on her behalf.
That might work? The sooner she gets some answers and you, then you can plan the next move.