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Access to Grandchild

grandmoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:00:48 GMT

If one of your sons had a child and decided not to have anything to do with the bub.

As a grandparent would you like to have contact with the Bub

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purple_haize — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:03:56 GMT

I voted yes.

I would defnitely like to be in the childs life.

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twinkles**stars — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:09:36 GMT

Yes if the mother was willing and it was in the best interest of the child. So much depends on whether or not that is possible.

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kopenhagen5 — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:17:52 GMT

I am with twinkles.

I would want to, but whatever is best for the others.

If you are already close to the mother, that would make it easier.

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twinkles**stars — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:18:47 GMT

Is this your son or a friend?

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judyztreasurez — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:23:55 GMT

I voted yes. I miss my granddaughter every day. I hope one day she will know our family of her family love her dearly

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grandmoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:24:42 GMT

Is this your son or a friend?

Neither.

A lady I do volunteer with is setting up a workshop for some young mother. We were discussing this and she had asked me to put some info together for her. I thought that I would try and get a cross section of opinions.

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judyztreasurez — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:24:55 GMT

I voted yes. I miss my granddaughter every day. I hope one day she will know our family of her family love her dearly

Well, that makes a lot of sense 🙂

I voted yes. I miss my granddaughter every day. I hope one day she will know our side of her family love her dearly

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grandmoon — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:34:49 GMT

Well, that makes a lot of sense 🙂

I voted yes. I miss my granddaughter every day. I hope one day she will know our side of her family love her dearly

Yes it makes sense. When My son seperated from is partner she tried every trick in the book to stop him having any access but it didn't work. Now his daughter lives with him at her own chose.

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bella_again — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:36:10 GMT

I voted yes I think A Grand parent is so important in the life of a child regardless of the decision one parent may make. So if the parent who has custody is open to that absolutely the experience of a Grand parent enriches a child's life.

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twinkles**stars — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:49:28 GMT

I agree Bella...we play an important role in their lives. But I wouldn't want the child to feel any hostility between the parent and grandparent and would walk away rather than have that happen. There is always the possibilty of friendship and contact later in life:)

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judyztreasurez — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 07:51:15 GMT

I agree Bella...we play an important role in their lives. But I wouldn't want the child to feel any hostility between the parent and grandparent and would walk away rather than have that happen. There is always the possibilty of friendship and contact later in life:)

This is my hope twinkles

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nimishi — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:10:52 GMT

I have an 8mth old grandson. The father did not want anything to do with the pregnancy/baby - in fact moved and changed his phone etc as soon as he was told about the pregnancy. The pregnancy was an accident and they had only just met.

I have one photo of the father.

My daughter, when she told him she was pregnant, asked if he wanted to be involved. He said NO. When she asked about his family's medical history - he said awful diseases and conditions.

I often wonder about the other grandparents - what if this was the only chance of a grandchild for them. Would they want involvement, contact, visits, photos...... Unfortunately I only have a first name, and no way of tracking down the father or his parents.

We would be happy to involve them even without the biological father being involved. Also without any financial consideration.

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purple_haize — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:19:39 GMT

I know of woman who when she got pregnant, didnt even tell the father of her baby, the reason being that she didnt want his parents to find out..

How cruel is that?

The girl now 9yrs. doesnt know who her biological father is nor does she know who her paternal grandparents are.........so very sad for the girl.

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just_me_karen — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:23:21 GMT

I say no. I think parents who bring up a son who has no sense of responsibility and is uncaring towards his own child, should not be permitted to potentially harm another generation.

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2106greencat — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:48:25 GMT

I didn't vote, I think I would love to take part in the childs life, but honestly, I would be too ashamed of the action of my son to have the guts to ask. And that would be sad.

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cueperkins — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:50:57 GMT

I grew up never knowing my father and that decision was made for me long before I got out of nappies.

I never saw my fathers mother much either, other than very rarely & even then it was strained. It's hard being a kid in between adult prejudices....given a choice I would have wanted to know my Paternal Grandmother much better.

I say, do everything you can to be in the life of your grandchild, even if your son is too stupid to know better, your grandchild will be so much better off knowing someone gives a damn = JMO

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joz*garage — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 08:57:25 GMT

Watched this movie last night..

Auatralia

epic!

Thread reminded me of a scene - the father of a half cast boy, not only he didnt want anything to do with, he tried to shoot him.

His grandfather in the end took to boy on walkabout.

Anyone see it?

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cueperkins — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 09:01:04 GMT

I watched it too for the umpteenth time...my OH asked if it was serious & I had to say vaguely but it's also a tad 'strictly ballroom'. Particularly the Kangaroo shooting scene....hilarious. Great cinematrography though wasn't it?

My OH reckons they dropped more ordinance on Darwin than Pearl Harbour.

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twinkles**stars — Sun, 27 Jan 2013 09:07:11 GMT

I say no. I think parents who bring up a son who has no sense of responsibility and is uncaring towards his own child, should not be permitted to potentially harm another generation.

I don't think we can judge unless we know the full circumstances.