topic Re: At what age is it okay for a sleep over? in Community Spirit

At what age is it okay for a sleep over?

givemeaspell — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:16:10 GMT

For your son/daughter to allow their partners to spend the night (same bed) in your family home?

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azureline** — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:19:38 GMT

I voted 18+ but it depends on family dynamics? younger siblings... family values, commitment.....

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purple_haize — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:19:39 GMT

I voted 18 & over.........you should have had 21 & over as that is when I allowed my son to have his girl friend of a couple of yrs. stay.

I think 18 is still a bit young...... and many 18yr olds only have a g/friend for a couple of months, then it is on to someone new.

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givemeaspell — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:21:58 GMT

thanks Purple taken on board, but i figured once over 18 they are adults but get your drift.

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purple_haize — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:22:06 GMT

I voted 18+ but it depends on family dynamics? younger siblings... family values, commitment.....

I agree, there are so many different things to consider. I believe if they have had their partners for a long period of time, that too has to be taken into consideration at 18.

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givemeaspell — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:23:41 GMT

and are there different rules for your daughters than your sons? shouldn't be but I do hear that alot.

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purple_haize — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 09:24:15 GMT

thanks Purple taken on board, but i figured once over 18 they are adults but get your drift.

Well, there are 18yr olds that are mature and then again there are some that are not, and for that reason, I think 18 is too young.

My stepson is 19yrs. and he is still not mature and he is not allowed to have his g/friend stay here with his father and me or at his mothers place.

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i-need-a-martini — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:00:52 GMT

As long as both parents know what is going on then I say 16. Better in your hose than in some alleyway somewhere.

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daydream**believer — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:06:03 GMT

i would have voted 21 and over if it had been there.

It would also depend on how long the couple have been in a relationship

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crystal**flake — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:06:27 GMT

I've told mine when there is a ring on the finger.

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crystal**flake — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:07:52 GMT

I have always done the same rules for both of mine.

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**meep** — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:12:20 GMT

As long as both parents know what is going on then I say 16. Better in your hose than in some alleyway somewhere.

You'd be OK with your 16yo daughter sleeping with her partner in the next room? Wow......Not judging, just surprised.

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chuk_77 — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:13:35 GMT

if they are going to do anything, it makes no difference if they sleep at each others house. The deed will be done else where.

Having said that I know a parent who let her daughter at 12, she was pregnant at 14:|

hopefully you can teach your child about respecting them selves and the other person and safety and cross your fingers it sank in

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purple_haize — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:17:36 GMT

As long as both parents know what is going on then I say 16. Better in your hose than in some alleyway somewhere.

I dont agree with that, I couldnt let it happen, thankfully neither of my kids asked at that age, the answer would have been no, they knew that, and that is why they didnt ask.

16 is too young.

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daydream**believer — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:19:32 GMT

Sorry, but allowing your 16 year old to have his/her bf/gf sleep over is encouraging them to have sex, and they may not have done the deed before then

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i-need-a-martini — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:20:13 GMT

You'd be OK with your 16yo daughter sleeping with her partner in the next room? Wow......Not judging, just surprised.

If at 16 either one had a serious boyfriend/girlfriend then I will assume they are doing or will soon do the deed. I'd rather they did it in a comfortable and loving environment. So I would be encouraging them to stay at home.

At 16, my MIL did the same for me and I think she was a very smart woman. If I have have the sense that she had then I'll be happy. 🙂

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crystal**flake — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:23:54 GMT

What has happened to bonking in the car.

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i-need-a-martini — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:24:36 GMT

Sorry, but allowing your 16 year old to have his/her bf/gf sleep over is encouraging them to have sex, and they may not have done the deed before then

I think Daydream that you know what your own kids are capable of.

I know my son will wait for a long while. I don't have to worry about him.

But I am bracing myself for some turbulent years with my now 11 year old daughter. I expect boys and (whether I like it or not) doing the deed will be high on her priority list in the not too distant future. It may as well be at home. I have already discussed this with her as part of her overall 'life' education. 😉

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Anonymous — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:28:32 GMT

I think it depends on how long they have been together for ,if there are other children in the house to consider ..setting an example and all that ..

over 18 and more IMO .

I had 6 year gaps between my kids ,and no way was the eldest allowed to bring home

Just any one iykwim ..

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**meep** — Wed, 30 Jan 2013 11:31:06 GMT

Personally, I agree with the majority here. 18+. Once they become adults, not sure how we as parents can have any say in it.