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WWYD return or not

oh_my_days — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 07:20:14 GMT

What would the cs'ers do?

Say somebody loaned you an item and then that somebody was just incredibly nasty to you one day totally out of the blue (unrelated to the lending) and you had a huge falling out and didn't speak for a long long time. Could that somebody contact you out of the blue and ask for the item back?

Would you give it back?

The falling out was that vile there is no chance of words ever being exchanged ever again. Ever.

Would you think "stiff biscuits you should have remembered I had your item before you were nasty"?

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latina4621 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 07:22:26 GMT

give it back

as it shows who is the bigger person.

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debra9275 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 07:51:53 GMT

It has to be returned IMO , particularly as it was on loan, no matter what the relationship is between the people now. could it be posted so you don't have to speak to them again? Or could someone else take it there for you?

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oh_my_days — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:02:14 GMT

It's a power struggle thing. Does sending it back give them power they don't deserve?

They're very bossy. Used to being the boss of everybody and every thing. I refuse to be bossed about these days.

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debra9275 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:04:43 GMT

No, I don't think it gives them power, giving it back is just the right thing to do . IMO, the person who does the right thing by giving back the loaned item, has all the power cos they can be confident they did the right thing.

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*pepe — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:07:49 GMT

@oh_my_days wrote:
It's a power struggle thing. Does sending it back give them power they don't deserve?

They're very bossy. Used to being the boss of everybody and every thing. I refuse to be bossed about these days.

if anything returning it gives you the power - for want of a better word - as you did the right thing instead of resorting to pettiness.

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cherry*135 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:26:37 GMT

I would give it back.

The reason I would give it back is that the other person would no longer have a reason to pester/contact you. (Till they think of another issue anyway) Put it in their mailbox if it will fit, or mail it to them.

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freddie*rooster — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:30:01 GMT

What's the item?

Are you the lender or the receiver?

The reason I ask, because i'm a sticky beak.

If I had the item which was lent to me, I would return it because it doesn't belong to me.

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debra9275 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:30:25 GMT

Huh? How did you know it was a book. The OP never said what it was

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just_me_karen — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:32:38 GMT

Lol Deb it was edited out.

In answer to the OP, you should return it because to keep it is dishonest.

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***super_nova*** — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:35:09 GMT

If I had a falling out with a person I would immediately returned anything of theirs I had. Actually I would drive it over as soon as practical.

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oh_my_days — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:39:54 GMT

freddie, I'm the reciever.

super nova, it's literally been years. We both forgot about the item.

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the_bob_delusion — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:42:32 GMT

@oh_my_days wrote:
freddie, I'm the reciever.

super nova, it's literally been years. We both forgot about the item.

Yes it's obvious you both forgot about the item.

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***super_nova*** — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:47:28 GMT

@oh_my_days wrote:

super nova, it's literally been years. We both forgot about the item.

if you have it and know exactly where it, I'd give it back. If I had no idea what has happened to it, I would just sorry, I have no idea where it is, and if I ever come across it I will post it to you.

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freddie*rooster — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:53:57 GMT

Has the lender asked for the item back?

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the_bob_delusion — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:55:04 GMT

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Jesus was never wrong. He claimed himself to be God. There was and still questions about his sanity. There're still plenty of people out there claiming to be Jesus.

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the_bob_delusion — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 08:56:00 GMT

@freddie*rooster wrote:
Has the lender asked for the item back?

I presume that's kind of a given given OP.

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oh_my_days — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 12:05:10 GMT

They told a mutual friend. After calling my house 6 times in two hours. I screen my calls because frankly the relationship is completely dead. Has been for years and I have no intention of revisiting what was basically an abusive relationship. They are a bit surprised I think that I'm standing my ground.

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latina4621 — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 12:13:03 GMT

Fair enough i you don't want to communicate with them but keeping what was theirs is just spiteful and you won't gain anything by doing it, why don't you give the mutual friend the item to give back to them .

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youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit — Sun, 14 Jul 2013 12:27:51 GMT

I would just send it to them.

If they are remembering something that was loaned to you years ago, they evidently want it back.

No dramas, you win cause they are out of your life, and their stuff is no longer cluttering up your life. They cant control you if you release them.