topic Re: W'hy Can't Anyone Do Something???? in Community Spirit

W'hy Can't Anyone Do Something????

kengillard — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:02:25 GMT

My neighbour needs medical help.

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azureline** — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:05:52 GMT

Did the son do anything?

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serendipityricho — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:07:14 GMT

Here we go again......................Richo.

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catsnknots — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:09:05 GMT

Google CAT team.

That is the Crisis and Assesment Team.

Find the one closest to you and make a call.

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kengillard — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:15:44 GMT

this is a long story..she was found by me lying on her concrete with injured elbows and lying in duck poo. for l and a half days.in the rain

went to hospital for 10 days...refused all help..was sent home...has been back for 1 week. home again. which still leaves me and another friend "responsible" for her welfare.....NOT GOOD ENOUGH. I have other problems in my day to day life...how can I get someone to take responsibilty?her son has been notified..but he's doing his best from afar. I don't really need to be responsible for her welfare. like tomorrow I'm going over to check on whether her chooks have water and feeed....and whether she hasn't fallen down again.

I'm getting too old for this.

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kengillard — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:19:51 GMT

he's been notified Az..but unless she can 'be assessed by ACAT..(with her approval>>>duh) she can refuse all help and there's nothing anyone can do. so that leave me and another friend to make sure she still alive....

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kengillard — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:21:22 GMT

yes Richo. here we go again....STILL.

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**meep** — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:26:44 GMT

@kengillard wrote:
My neighbour needs medical help.

Is this the same lady you posted about recently? I thought you were finally able to get it all sorted.

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kengillard — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:40:32 GMT

Yes ...it is the same lady. but nothing has been done..cos she refuses all offers of help, including an ACAT assessment.

not toworrry...just needed to vent a bit. xxx

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*mrgrizz* — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:46:07 GMT

she is obviously delusional...........have her committed under the mental health act

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azureline** — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 09:56:33 GMT

Call her son and tell him again, that you are not up to doing this, he must take responsibilty.

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twyngwyn — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 10:00:12 GMT

can you tell her gp that you are going on holiday, and the ball is in their court? surely, they have ways & means....

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**meep** — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 11:19:27 GMT

@kengillard wrote:
Yes ...it is the same lady. but nothing has been done..cos she refuses all offers of help, including an ACAT assessment.

not toworrry...just needed to vent a bit. xxx

geez Gill, there has to be something that can be done.

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**meep** — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 12:04:50 GMT

@*mrgrizz* wrote:
she is obviously delusional...........have her committed under the mental health act

Gill, maybe you could get some info from here? At the bottom there are some useful links. I'm sorry if this has already been suggested.

http://www.legalaid.qld.gov.au/legalinformation/livinginthecommunity/Yourrights/Pages/Mentalhealth.aspx

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nevynreally — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 12:37:49 GMT

Maybe it's time you tell her that her stance on not accepting help because she has friends/neighbours is affecting your health. And if the other neighbour does the same, maybe she might realise she needs outside help. Tough for a lot of that age to accept, but being a burden on others is something that maybe she needs information on. Professional people choose to help, neighbours and friends don't.

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lind9650 — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:06:08 GMT

Please Gillie, make it clear to her that you can no longer be responsible for her welfare, and make the other friends do the same. Tell her that there is help available for her to live a normal and peaceful life, but if she refuses help from them, you are not going to ruin your own life just to please her and her selfish demands on people that are only strangers to her.

You have to be firm and perhaps sound harsh and uncaring, but that is what she is doing to you and the other neighbours. Please, please, do the right thing for yourself and obtain a strict rule about dealing with neighbours that are users.

Just tell her openly and truthfully how things stand, and also tell her that you will not be available when she needs help of any kind, becuse you have your own family member to care for, and family comes first and foremost.

(((((HUGS))))) Erica

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meh_too — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:17:07 GMT

She is accepting help - yours. Be kind to yourself - cut her off.

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lyndal1838 — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:24:52 GMT

Gill, as long as you are bailing her out of trouble she will accept it.

The next time you decide to check up on her I would go quietly to the place she may have fallen...if she is there I would go home and ring the ambulance....but do not be there when they arrive.

They won't leave her there and you can truthfully say you are not going to be responsible for her any more. And ring her son!!! He is eventually going to have to front up and accept his responsibilities.

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cherry*135 — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 13:29:21 GMT

How far away does the son live? He needs to get in his car, or on a plane and visit/stay with his mother. Nothing he can do from afar will sort out this current situation/

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darksideofthemoon — Fri, 31 Jan 2014 19:35:43 GMT

What a bluddy nuisense Gil, Well you've answered your own question, why can't anyone do something? She's refused help is why and it's against the law to force her unless she's a danger to herself or others.

I would speak to the police, go and see them and ask them what they would do, have they any suggestions. Or even say you can't keep this up and can they send someone around once a day to check on her...

Ring the RSPCA and report about the chooks and whatever other animals she has, if they are taken away YOU have less need to worry. Maybe that would shock her into doing something?

Certainly tell her you can't keep doing this and then leave her for a couple of days. Yes I know, it sounds cruel, but she might have to figure it out for herself - as if the fall she had didn't do so

Son will have to take responsibility for her me thinks.