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What does it Mean When

grandmoon — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 23:40:50 GMT

someones says that "they are in a very dark place" ??

Are they suffering from a Mental Illness or is it a Depression they are suffering from. ?

Re: What does it Mean When

just_me_karen — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 23:42:15 GMT

That would be depression....unless they're an evil psychopath...or maybe locked in a dungeon.

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nero_bolt — Fri, 21 Mar 2014 23:45:36 GMT

It could be any of the various forms of depression but can also be a mental Illness and in cases its simply the attention seeking type.... Looking for the OOHH you poor thing type of replies.

If someone is saying this to you and you want a better answer on here you will need to provide some more info and background as based on your post it could be anyone of the above 3

🙂 (Or they could just be in a room with no lights 🙂 )

Re: What does it Mean When

polksaladallie — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:00:56 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
someones says that "they are in a very dark place" ??

Are they suffering from a Mental Illness or is it a Depression they are suffering from. ?

They are asking for help.

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love*today — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:07:00 GMT

I wouldn't dismiss this as just being down. Keep an eye on them for any odd behaviour and I would see if they wanted to talk about it.

The people I know with depression, on bad days they will say they just need some rest, are having a bad day etc....when someone tells me they are in a dark place, it means to me that they are "really" struggling.

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grandmoon — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:06:19 GMT

I would like to help her if I could find out what to do.

She at time stresses out and is stressing the people around her out as well.

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nero_bolt — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:12:00 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
I would like to help her if I could find out what to do.

She at time stresses out and is stressing the people around her out as well.

Have a look here http://www.beyondblue.org.au/

and seek professional help or even talk to your family doctor about what you can do.

You also state SHE... are we taking a teenager or adult 20's or 40-50+ etc..

More information is required but the best answer is get professional help......

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love*today — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:13:58 GMT

Grab some numbers of local social service organisations and pass them on.
Be there to just listen.
If you get that feeling that she is going to do something stupid, take away anything that she can use, stay by her and call for help.

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polksaladallie — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:14:44 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:

She at time stresses out and is stressing the people around her out as well.

That may be another way of asking for help.

Re: What does it Mean When

2106greencat — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 00:19:03 GMT

http://community.ebay.com.au/t5/Community-Spirit/Mental-Illness-Awareness-and-Support-Thread/td-p/1043513/jump-to/first-unread-message

Re: What does it Mean When

bright.ton42 — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 01:12:46 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
I would like to help her if I could find out what to do.

She at time stresses out and is stressing the people around her out as well.

I would try asking her how you can help, and be prepared to listen. Sometimes it can be a big help if people in a dark place feel they have a supportive ear.

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the_great_she_elephant — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 02:09:36 GMT

There is a technique I was taught when I did some voluntary work with Palliative Care. It is called "Reflective Listening." It means affirming (reflecting back) what people are saying - letting them know that you have heard what they are trying to tell you.

For instance, if your friend says "I'm in a very dark place," you say something lke "it sounds as if things are really bad for you at the moment." This tells them you have 'heard' them and ivites them to tell you more.

Often when people are struggling, they are not really looking for advice - just empathy. Knowing that someone is there for them, not judging, but simply acknowledging their pain, can make all the difference and give them the confidence to'unburden' themselves. And the more people feel empowered to talk about their problems the easier it is for them to come to acknowledge their needs and seek help.

Re: What does it Mean When

Anonymous — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 02:26:53 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
someones says that "they are in a very dark place" ??

Are they suffering from a Mental Illness or is it a Depression they are suffering from. ?

either or or both grandmoon ,if you are really worried ask them if they are thinking of harming themselves .

if the answer is yes ..it is to be taken seriously and classed as an emergency !

and what L.T said

goodluck !

Re: What does it Mean When

spotweldersfriend — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 03:14:14 GMT

I used to 'go dark' when i worked on special ops for 'the company".

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lloydslights — Sat, 22 Mar 2014 05:16:43 GMT

@love*today wrote:
Grab some numbers of local social service organisations and pass them on.
Be there to just listen.
If you get that feeling that she is going to do something stupid, take away anything that she can use, stay by her and call for help.

To Grandmoon:

Even if this admission is not acute at this time, take her by the hand and accompany her to a doctor's surgery in the very near future.

Saying "go to the doctor" may not necessarily work. She may have to be assisted to get there (physically as well as mentally).

Then YOU will feel that you've done your best for her. It's a good idea for all the group of friends to have those numbers of local social service organizations so that you all share the load.

My thoughts are with you. And thank you for caring enough about her to ask for assistance.

DEB