topic Re: Thread on Interpersonal in Community Spirit

Thread on Interpersonal

izabsmiling — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 12:51:16 GMT

any ideas how to start this thread ?

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:01:20 GMT

Could be dangerous iza.

All sorts of openings there

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

izabsmiling — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:06:03 GMT

that's what I thought too but a new thread was suggested by our mods where interpersonal was off topic ?

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

joz*garage — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:08:12 GMT

@izabsmiling wrote:
that's what I thought too but a new thread was suggested by our mods where interpersonal was off topic ?

got a link?

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:10:22 GMT

@izabsmiling wrote:
that's what I thought too but a new thread was suggested by our mods where interpersonal was off topic ?

Ahhh I see. Then let's see how it develops then, shall we?

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

izabsmiling — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:10:23 GMT

@joz*garage wrote:
@izabsmiling wrote:
that's what I thought too but a new thread was suggested by our mods where interpersonal was off topic ?
got a link?

http://community.ebay.com.au/t5/Community-Spirit/Asylum-seeker-handouts-scrapped-Australian-taxpayers-to-save-25/td-p/1124909/page/4

post 67

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:13:11 GMT

Underbat is awesome, lol

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:19:31 GMT

in·ter·per·son·al (ĭn′tər-pûr′sə-nəl)

adj.

1. Of or relating to the interactions between individuals: interpersonal skills.

2. Existing or occurring between individuals: interpersonal communication or conflict.

in′ter·per′son·al·ly adv.

interpersonal (ˌɪntəˈpɜːsənəl)

adj

1. between persons; involving personal relationships

Collins English Dictionary – Complete and Unabridged © HarperCollins Publishers 1991, 1994, 1998, 2000, 2009

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That doesn't sound so bad. When the mods use the word they make it

sound like a really bad thing

(sorry, my c & p is not up to scratch)

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

joz*garage — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:21:16 GMT

@izabsmiling wrote:
@joz*garage wrote:
@izabsmiling wrote:
that's what I thought too but a new thread was suggested by our mods where interpersonal was off topic ?
got a link?
http://community.ebay.com.au/t5/Community-Spirit/Asylum-seeker-handouts-scrapped-Australian-taxpayers-to-save-25/td-p/1124909/page/4
post 67

you certainly dissected that one didnt you? good luck with it, *sighs

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

acacia_pycnantha — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:21:55 GMT

I thought the whole point of this board was to get down and interpersonal with other posters; to really connect through the sharing of ideas and of world-views.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:38:53 GMT

So did I. Maybe the mods have their own dictionary in which 'interpersonal'

means something else entirely

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

lyndal1838 — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:38:53 GMT

It is not what you say but the way you say it that makes it interpersonal in an offensive way and gets the Mods offside.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

acacia_pycnantha — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:42:28 GMT

I think the mods just have a job to do; a bit like traffic wardens.

They have to be seen to be on the job and the best way to demonstrate to their employers their vigilance and attention to duty is to snag their weekly quota . . of traffic tickets, etc.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

imastawka — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 13:47:41 GMT

@lyndal1838 wrote:
It is not what you say but the way you say it that makes it interpersonal in an offensive way and gets the Mods offside.

More often it's the way that it is interpreted - and not what you meant in the least

Some posters' only excercise is jumping to conclusions

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

j*oono — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 14:06:56 GMT

That's true Ima. Some would see Joz's post asking for a link as wanting to know what Iza was talking about. Others would see it as a dig at Iza for the way she is often ridiculed for posting links and c&ps. I suppose it is the way you look at it.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

boris1gary — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 21:51:12 GMT

@imastawka wrote:
@lyndal1838 wrote:
It is not what you say but the way you say it that makes it interpersonal in an offensive way and gets the Mods offside.
More often it's the way that it is interpreted - and not what you meant in the least

Some posters' only excercise is jumping to conclusions

I loved that ad for coffee, have thrown out all Mr Boris's tea bags, (just in case). Interpersonal - some are better at complaining than others.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

2106greencat — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:10:39 GMT

So how does it work though - how does the Mod know when to jump in and reprimand us children?

1. Do people still button push ?

2. Are keywords tagged so the mods spot them ?

3. Or are they seriously sitting at some computer in geek land just scrolling through every thread to find a fight.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

boris1gary — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:13:27 GMT

@2106greencat wrote:
So how does it work though - how does the Mod know when to jump in and reprimand us children?

1. Do people still button push ?
2. Are keywords tagged so the mods spot them ?
3. Or are they seriously sitting at some computer in geek land just scrolling through every thread to find a fight.

1 and 2 - i don't think 3.

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

2106greencat — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:15:18 GMT

That's a shame, I kinda got a warm fuzzy feeling thinking of them stuck at a console doing that all day

Re: Thread on Interpersonal

izabsmiling — Tue, 01 Apr 2014 22:17:36 GMT

@imastawka wrote:
@lyndal1838 wrote:
It is not what you say but the way you say it that makes it interpersonal in an offensive way and gets the Mods offside.
More often it's the way that it is interpreted - and not what you meant in the least

Some posters' only excercise is jumping to conclusions

that would apply to all humans I think.All 'posters'

The thing is we aren't 'saying' we are writing .We aren't having a chat at our dinner table where hellos,pleases and thankyous are expected and where we can use other means to help interpret meaning and intend of words .We are all having a public discussion (which must have interpersonal..as we are all interacting).If something becomes personal or offensive or whatever I would expect that those 'posts' are the problem and if they are seen to be a problem those posts should be removed.

If posts are OK (remain on the boards)...why inflame,make posters feel like what's just happened IS the actually interpersonal 'dispute' and confuse and perhaps end a discussion and everyone who posts or wants to post ?

I look and think ...how do I continue when I can't see the reason for complaint/directives ?

It's like standing in a line at a counter where a big sign says stand here to be served and being told off for doing that and only to be told to toe the line and do the right thing ?

like what is it you want me to do ? what is the right thing ? If standing here is the wrong thing please remove/correct your sign

and let me know how I am to proceed .I don't wish to be told off for doing as instructed by that sign of yours.infact you tell me off and I may want to tell you off and point to your sign.