topic Re: What Do People Mean in Community Spirit

What Do People Mean

grandmoon — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:01:28 GMT

when they say "You have to accept me as I am"

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joz*garage — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:03:38 GMT

take it, or leave it?

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*crikey*mate* — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:05:52 GMT

"I don't think enough of you to go to the trouble to inhibit or change the characteristics of mine that you find distasteful"

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harley_babes_hoard — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:06:12 GMT

don't try and change me.

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grandmoon — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:09:28 GMT

@*crikey*mate* wrote:
"I don't think enough of you to go to the trouble to inhibit or change the characteristics of mine that you find distasteful"

I like is it suits the person so well. But why do they think that we all should change when they won't.

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harley_babes_hoard — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:14:59 GMT

because they think the worlds revolves around them. You are best without this person in your life if they are not willing to compromise. It's give and take in any relationship, friendship or otherwise.

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*pepe — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:30:48 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
when they say "You have to accept me as I am"

it means they are who they are, like it or lump it.

if you feel the need to change a person to have any sort of relationship with them, and they are unwilling or incapable of that change then its a fair bet that relationship was not meant to be and wouldn't last anyway.

Re: What Do People Mean

nevillesdaughter — Tue, 08 Jul 2014 23:49:54 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
when they say "You have to accept me as I am"

Sometimes (often?) it's code for "I think I'm perfect and therefore have nothing to learn about myself and no interest in learning about anyone else and how they may see things differently........ "

Just my opinion,

Marina.

Re: What Do People Mean

sineaterdoodah — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 00:17:16 GMT

and sometimes it means if you don't like who i am,why haven't you walked away,instead of trying to turn me into YOUR version of the perfect person? if that's what you want,find it.

just sayin...

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boris1gary — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 00:21:21 GMT

@sineaterdoodah wrote:
and sometimes it means if you don't like who i am,why haven't you walked away,instead of trying to turn me into YOUR version of the perfect person? if that's what you want,find it.
just sayin...

I think it means exactly what it says.

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sineaterdoodah — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 00:22:53 GMT

i just..what is the word...amplified it,lol!

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grandmoon — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 00:27:15 GMT

@boris1gary wrote:
@sineaterdoodah wrote:
and sometimes it means if you don't like who i am,why haven't you walked away,instead of trying to turn me into YOUR version of the perfect person? if that's what you want,find it.
just sayin...
I think it means exactly what it says.

This person joined a group I below to and is now causing a lot of problems with her attitude. Maybe if all the people she is p*ssing off walked away that would be the end of the group.

Re: What Do People Mean

*pepe — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 00:41:54 GMT

if you have told this person her behaviour in the group is disruptive and not acceptable and she says too bad then you can either put up with it or ignore her or remove her.

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grandmoon — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 01:04:17 GMT

@*pepe wrote:
if you have told this person her behaviour in the group is disruptive and not acceptable and she says too bad then you can either put up with it or ignore her or remove her.

I have been ignoring her for a while now, but unfortunately she doesn't take it hint.

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icyfroth — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 01:46:21 GMT

It means they're not prepared to try to please you.

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imastawka — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 01:51:38 GMT

@grandmoon wrote:
@*pepe wrote:
if you have told this person her behaviour in the group is disruptive and not acceptable and she says too bad then you can either put up with it or ignore her or remove her.
I have been ignoring her for a while now, but unfortunately she doesn't take it hint.

This thread should be a very BIG hint

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j*oono — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 02:04:33 GMT

I don't think Grandmoon is talking about an ebay group, stawka.

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imastawka — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 02:08:48 GMT

Oh, my bad. Then I'm out, sorry

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grandmoon — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 02:55:02 GMT

@j*oono wrote:
I don't think Grandmoon is talking about an ebay group, stawka.

You are right it is definately not Ebay. If it was I could just log out.

Re: What Do People Mean

channys_mum — Wed, 09 Jul 2014 03:11:10 GMT

We all want to be accepted for who we are, therefore we should be prepared to accept people for who they are. It is or should be a two way street.

Everyone is a 'package' and have goods and bads. Not everyone is everyone else's cup of tea, therefore a friendship is not formed, however when in a group situation we tolerate. Well we should.

If the person is expecting acceptance and not giving it then maybe the person should be ignored by those offended until the penny drops, instead of bowing down to their ways.

In saying that though I know that sometimes it is really hard to ignore rubbish when it is ongoing

This is just my opinion