topic Re: Bribery in Community Spirit

Bribery

lloydslights — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 03:48:23 GMT

In a local shop recently, the bloke was looking for :

"a lolly to bribe my child for toilet training".

I was stunned.

Thinking further, what would he bribe a child with to sit still in the dentist's chair?

Is this child a politician in the making?

DEB

Re: Bribery

siggie-reported-by-alarmists — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 03:53:47 GMT

Jelly beans for a number 1.

Small milky way for a number 2.

What you call bribery, most call reward for effort.

Works......

Re: Bribery

fourandsixpants — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:01:24 GMT

Most successful method of getting things done on time, when you want something.

Works extremely well with no side effects.....works on little AND big 'kids'

Re: Bribery

lloydslights — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:06:19 GMT

I thought a happy smile on the parents face was sufficient reward.

To me, your reward for a good job brings to mind 'entitlement' on a junior scale.

So at what stage/age does the reward cease. What if the child refuses to go to the toilet without a reward in the offing? Could lead to both physical and mental issues in my opinion.

DEB

Re: Bribery

serendipityricho — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:15:19 GMT

A -target on the back of the bowl helps with young blokes.

But when they start school--its try and see who can pee out the window above dunny.

.........Richo.

Re: Bribery

k0llectable5 — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:15:42 GMT

I agree with siggie, I also agree with you LL.

A happy smile should be enough, but I dont know if you've ever toilet trained a small tacker but some have a harder time getting their head around it than others.

There just never seems to be a one size fits all solution.

Re: Bribery

boris1gary — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:23:42 GMT

bribery is usually an incentive/reward for bad behaviour, an incentive for good behaviour is different, in my opinion anyway.

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channys_mum — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:33:11 GMT

First child then Deb

We all try to be pc for the first child. After that we go with what works. It was smarties from 2nd child on for me

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green.fields — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:35:30 GMT

We have used reward charts for the grandies, x amount of stickers gets them a dip in the special goodie box. It works and sometimes you just have to resort to these types of things, Mummy's and others smiles just don't cut it at times.

Re: Bribery

lloydslights — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:36:34 GMT

Oh Richo you brought back memories of my 2 blokes trying to outdo each other with the height limit.........till I told them that I would treat them like the cat and rub their nose in it.

Yes, I have "trained" 3. But those were the days, when life was slower for mums.

No racing around waking them early and getting them to kindies on her way to her own employment elsewhere or to shop for disposables on the raceway back for pick up time.

No, we sat them down on their potty chair while we rinsed and washed cloth nappies or while we went to the loo ourselves as examples of action.

It wasn't an "event" to be rewarded.

DEB

Re: Bribery

channys_mum — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:42:52 GMT

Time was a good thing back then, it's not available now. Save your sanity and succumb to bribery and corruption

Just kidding go within your comfort zone.

Re: Bribery

channys_mum — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:44:03 GMT

Oh they never did become addicted to smarties. Well Channy did

Re: Bribery

serendipityricho — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:50:37 GMT

deb -yep it happened easy without stress of modern living styles.

My young bloke complained about the cold water at first ---lol.................Richo.

Re: Bribery

lloydslights — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:52:20 GMT

Just thinking more... do kindies charge more for untoilet trained kids.????

This whole modern day parenting is not natural to me.

DEB

Re: Bribery

ten*teeny*tiny*toes — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 04:59:17 GMT

Funny, I was just watching Family Fued on channel 10 the other night and the question was about the reward for a good report card.

Top answers were not too materialistic at all ... things like gold star, sticker, hug, chocolate frog.

The answers from the panel were things like holiday, money and puts hand up for thinking Game. (Electronic and expensive)

Re: Bribery

lloydslights — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 05:09:09 GMT

That is more or less what I'm concerned about.

Some children are starting to expect rewards for actions.

"I'll give you a chocolate if you visit grumpy old Grandad with me". "And when you turn 17 he might give you a car."

DEB

Re: Bribery

siggie-reported-by-alarmists — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 06:18:17 GMT

Jelly beans for children, BJ's for husbands....... positive reinforcement for good behavior works!.....

Re: Bribery

the_bob_delusion — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 06:41:42 GMT

WHat you call Bribery, some call positive reinforcement or classical conditioning. Just ask Pavlov's DOgs.

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daydream**believer — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 06:51:43 GMT

I gave my son a chocolate frog each time he did a number two on the loo for his first 5.

After that, no more frogs and he was fine with that

Re: Bribery

jean2579 — Wed, 20 Aug 2014 07:12:08 GMT

@siggie-reported-by-alarmists wrote:
Jelly beans for children, BJ's for husbands....... positive reinforcement for good behavior works!.....

I almost asked what BJ's were. Stopped myself just in time, I really must be getting old. Good luck with both.