topic Re: Relationships in Community Spirit

Relationships

jessicadazzler97 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 10:32:22 GMT

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electric*mayhem*band — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 11:17:47 GMT

Nice...

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jessicadazzler97 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 11:22:43 GMT

Love you too mayhem 😛

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iapetus_rocks — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 11:23:21 GMT

I think I'd rather ignore smug, self-satisfied patronizing.

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jessicadazzler97 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:19:33 GMT

I think I'd rather ignore the unconstructive, hurtful commentary.

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joz*garage — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 12:31:33 GMT

*analyzes true purpose of the thread

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ecar3483 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 13:16:00 GMT

They're interesting suggestions. Thanks for posting them.

The quality of the life I live is determined by the qualities I choose to live by.

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jessicadazzler97 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 21:18:01 GMT

Exactly! What do you think about 'paying attention to the relationship with yourself'? 🙂

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ecar3483 — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 05:06:29 GMT

For me, it was the only way I was ever going to be genuinely happy.

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the_great_she_elephant — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 07:40:07 GMT

If only real life were as simple as internet memes.

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jessicadazzler97 — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 09:15:18 GMT

Ecar - I totally agree. So weird that so many people make an effort in relationships, especially romantic ones, but then neglect themselves in the process.

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ecar3483 — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 11:49:30 GMT

Perhaps people neglect their selves because they are too busy chasing dreams fuelled by their expectations.

Or maybe it's that introspection is viewed with the same 'mainstream' suspicion as tie-dyed cheesecloth, crystals and self help books are, whereas relationships (no matter how disastrous) are seen as the acceptable norm.

In short, it seems it's "better" for two people to make each other incredibly unhappy than it is to seek the happiness that dwells within.

Yes, weird is a word I'd use, too.

The funny thing is, a lot of people I have known have found their happiness in sitting and reading a book, or fishing, or cooking.

Taking a little bit of time out for themselves seems to be the answer to a not so difficult question.

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jessicadazzler97 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 01:53:24 GMT

If only everyone else had your common sense 🙂

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ecar3483 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 04:37:05 GMT

They do have, and exercise common sense, and I don't doubt that for a moment.

Sometimes, I think, people may exercise poor judgement, that's no reflection on their ability to exercise common sense.

They choose to say or do things which may seem, to the outside observer, to be unwise, but what they choose to do is their choice.

Words on a screen aren't necessarily a reflection of the true character of their author.

Perhaps the grumpy, cynical, rude, sarcastic folk that you may encounter in internet land, from time to time, are simply people who are tired at the end of a hard day and just want to vent, to shout, to give voice to their frustations.You are "reading" people freed of the necessity of forced politeness that society imposes upon them. Their on line time is their time to be free, on line is where they get to shout and yell and let it all out.

Or maybe they are cynical, sarcastic, grumpy and rude. Who can say?

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opmania — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 05:20:35 GMT

What a fantastic observation

You know I never thought of it like that

Is a bit of a quandary

Are people really grumpy or rude

Or are they just venting

What about the people who are always

Nice on here and there are several

That comes to mind

Ate they likely to be grumpy rude

Cynical etc in reality

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jessicadazzler97 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 06:55:54 GMT

I hope they are as kind and as encouraging in real life.

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ecar3483 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 10:46:50 GMT

Off line, in the real world, yes, I'm as human, as imperfect as anyone.

I have my cynical, grumpy and rude moments. It's a good thing that cars, with the windows wound up, are essentially sound proof. I've had some of my best swear-like-a-trooper angry rant sessions on bits of road between traffic lights. It's very therapeutic.

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opmania — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 10:59:54 GMT

Well I would be really disappointed

To find that everyone here was

Behaving in a way completely different

To their normal every day

Characters just because they are

Anonymous

I would expect that of children

But not from a lot on here

Sure I can understand people wanting

To appear learned and Worldly but we

All know that Google is their friend

But to completely reverse character

Like a jeckle and Hyde

No I don't think that is true in most

Cases