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What are your thoughts....

*pepe — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 08:52:49 GMT

Say you were accused of something you hadn't done and suffered some ramifications for it and you message the accuser letting them know they were wrong and asking why they thought you had done this deed - the accuser reads the message but totally disregards it - neither acknowledges they received the message nor that they were wrong.

What would you think? Would you think they are rude or that they are just to weak to admit their mistake or some other conclusion?

I'm after opinions....

Re: What are your thoughts....

poison_ivys_pen — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 08:57:10 GMT

That's an interesting one, I'd think as a courtesy a reply was warranted with an explanation for their unfounded accusation. It's always advisable if making any form of accusation of anyone that an accuser has evidence to back up their statements and if not well an apology would be in order.

Re: What are your thoughts....

opmania — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:09:59 GMT

Unfortunately people often take as

Truth third hand information that they

Have heard and like to believe it.

Whether it is true or not can sometimes

Be irrelevant.

Unless you can actually prove that

You are innocent or approach the

Person who started the rumour and

Get them to withdraw the untruth in front of

The third party then I believe you just need

To accept it and move on.

Or you could set a bait as another

Rumour with the third parties prior knowledge

To prove this person is malicious

Re: What are your thoughts....

debra9275 — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:14:40 GMT

hmm I think not wanting to admit a mistake - or even acknowledge it

yes. opmania I've noticed that about 3rd hand information

Re: What are your thoughts....

opmania — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:22:28 GMT

Some people like to

Have a little drama in

Their otherwise mundane lives

And this often causes gossip and

Innuendo

Re: What are your thoughts....

debra9275 — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:24:10 GMT

that's true. I've read a few doozies lately

Re: What are your thoughts....

*pepe — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:26:22 GMT

@debra9275 wrote:
hmm I think not wanting to admit a mistake - or even acknowledge it

i'm going to give you the green tick because i think you are right.

Re: What are your thoughts....

opmania — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:28:03 GMT

Sometimes you just have to let things go and

Move on because some people really don't

Warrant worrying about

Re: What are your thoughts....

debra9275 — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:35:16 GMT

pepe I think if someone has chosen to believe something that's not true/right.. then let it go

(PS thanks for the green tick)

you're right again opmania- I think sometimes 3rd hand information etc. says a lot more about the person spreading the rumours than anyone else - and they are not worth worrying about

Re: What are your thoughts....

Anonymous — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:48:27 GMT

@*pepe wrote:
Say you were accused of something you hadn't done and suffered some ramifications for it and you message the accuser letting them know they were wrong and asking why they thought you had done this deed - the accuser reads the message but totally disregards it - neither acknowledges they received the message nor that they were wrong.

What would you think? Would you think they are rude or that they are just to weak to admit their mistake or some other conclusion?

I'm after opinions....

if they ignored me, i would assume

they just dont care.

things like that happen on social media

all the time.

if the ramifications are serious ie if you

feel you have a defamation case then

you should do something about that.

if its just gossip with no serious

ramifications -

meh

Re: What are your thoughts....

*pepe — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:52:07 GMT

@opmania wrote:

Sometimes you just have to let things go and
Move on because some people really don't
Warrant worrying about
my question wasn't if it was worth worrying about, it was asking for opinions on the lack of response.

Re: What are your thoughts....

youcandoityoucandoityoucandoit — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 09:54:39 GMT

They might be embarrassed to admit they were wrong, or they might be in denial, or maybe they havent received the message yet....

Re: What are your thoughts....

latina4621 — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 10:14:08 GMT

I think they are weak., and maybe they don't won't to admit they are wrong because they actually like all the trouble it caused

Re: What are your thoughts....

opmania — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 10:25:39 GMT

Why dont you send them another

Message maybe they didn't

Receive the first one.

Messages sometimes go

Astray

Re: What are your thoughts....

moonflyte — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 10:49:56 GMT

If you are talking about a certain company hired to mediate then I wouldnt waste my time waiting.

Re: What are your thoughts....

imastawka — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 10:54:35 GMT

@*pepe wrote:
Say you were accused of something you hadn't done and suffered some ramifications for it and you message the accuser letting them know they were wrong and asking why they thought you had done this deed - the accuser reads the message but totally disregards it - neither acknowledges they received the message nor that they were wrong.

What would you think? Would you think they are rude or that they are just to weak to admit their mistake or some other conclusion?

I'm after opinions....

I would think that they are too self-centred to entertain the very notion of replying

I would think they do not believe your protestations, and believe they are on the

higher moral ground, albeit incorrectly.

Howzat?

Re: What are your thoughts....

chuk_77 — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 11:39:15 GMT

@*pepe wrote:
Say you were accused of something you hadn't done and suffered some ramifications for it and you message the accuser letting them know they were wrong and asking why they thought you had done this deed - the accuser reads the message but totally disregards it - neither acknowledges they received the message nor that they were wrong.

What would you think? Would you think they are rude or that they are just to weak to admit their mistake or some other conclusion?

I'm after opinions....

if you are going to be accused of something, the accuser should provide proof at the time of the acusation, not just accept that the accusee will go along with whatever ramifications take place.

Re: What are your thoughts....

*pepe — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 11:44:00 GMT

@imastawka wrote:
@*pepe wrote:
Say you were accused of something you hadn't done and suffered some ramifications for it and you message the accuser letting them know they were wrong and asking why they thought you had done this deed - the accuser reads the message but totally disregards it - neither acknowledges they received the message nor that they were wrong.

What would you think? Would you think they are rude or that they are just to weak to admit their mistake or some other conclusion?

I'm after opinions....
I would think that they are too self-centred to entertain the very notion of replying

I would think they do not believe your protestations, and believe they are on the
higher moral ground, albeit incorrectly.

Howzat?

you get a green tick too.

Re: What are your thoughts....

imastawka — Sun, 25 Oct 2015 11:51:52 GMT

Yay me (Wish I knew what that was all about)

Re: What are your thoughts....

latina4621 — Mon, 26 Oct 2015 10:29:41 GMT

I would like to add embarrassed or not it is a pretty low thing to do not own up to a mistake ecspecially when someone else has copped ramifications over it

in future i would be giving them a wide birth.