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My racist boyfriend ...

krylekathe1 — Fri, 03 Nov 2017 22:43:39 GMT

So my boyfriend is black.
I am white.

He recently told me he only dates white chucks as black chicks are not attractive. I told him that he shouldn’t think or say things like that because it’s racist.

He insists because he is black it’s nor racist.

I said if you reversed it & a white guy said he didn’t like black chicks would it be racist & he agreed it would but insists as a black man nothing he says can be racist.

It’s really aggravating me.

How can I explain to him his argument is stupid?

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

krylekathe1 — Fri, 03 Nov 2017 22:44:42 GMT

Omg, he dates white chicks, not chucks! Apologies for the lack of proof reading!

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

kopenhagen5 — Fri, 03 Nov 2017 22:52:39 GMT

I like Raspberry jam, I don't like Plum jam.

If he is attracted to white girls more, it could simply be a matter of taste rather than out of racism.

Sounds more like it's to do with looks more than anything else.

To be racist is to dislike a race of people for no reason other then because they are from that race or to hold a race as being superior to another.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

davidc4430 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 00:49:40 GMT

some chicks are ugly, no doubt about it

but they often grow up beautiful

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

go-tazz — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 05:55:53 GMT

@kopenhagen5 wrote:

To be racist is to dislike a race of people for no reason other then because they are from that race or to hold a race as being superior to another.

That's what it should be but these days it's anything that can be taken as being derogatory to any other human

being regardless of whatever race they are.

I've known aboriginals that where/are the worst racists that I've ever known,(they use the same reason as the

OP's partner in saying that they can't be racist because they are aboriginals).

Off course it's a completely false statement because what they said/say has pure hate behind it and it's all meant

as a put down on "white" people.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

joz*garage — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 06:09:50 GMT

i dunno if he's being racist, blind if anything [attractive people 'everywhere'

or maybe he just doesn't like his own background

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

icyfroth — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 06:48:16 GMT

If the reverse was a white man saying it about black "chicks" it would be considered racist.

There are as many attractive black girls as there are white ones.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

janeababe — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 09:14:43 GMT

@krylekathe1 wrote:
So my boyfriend is black.
I am white.

He recently told me he only dates white chucks as black chicks are not attractive. I told him that he shouldn’t think or say things like that because it’s racist. That's his opinion. Making a statement that all black chicks are unattractive is a stereotype, not racism.
If he was to deny employing a female due to her skin colour, then that would be racism!

He insists because he is black it’s nor racist. Just because you say it's racism, doesn't make it racism though....

I said if you reversed it & a white guy said he didn’t like black chicks would it be racist & he agreed it would but insists as a black man nothing he says can be racist. Still not racism.... Just because someone doesn't desire to be in an inter-racial relationship, does not automatically make them racist!

It’s really aggravating me. This says more about you than it does about him...

How can I explain to him his argument is stupid? but its not stupid! Not to him! He can date anyone of any race or colour, whom ever he wants, obviously...... just like you can

What you have here is a difference of opinion! It is not a display of racism. If this is aggravating you so much, then I would suggest that this is not the right relationship for you.
He obviously thinks you're attractive, because he is dating you, I dont know why you cant just be happy with that and accept him as he is.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

krylekathe1 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 09:28:57 GMT

Why should I accept him as he is if I can improve him?

Much rather bend a man to my will than let him think for himself.

And of course he thinks i’m attractive; I am attractive.

😂😂😂

Although he did ask if I’ve ever considered getting a boob job and I was like ‘dude, I’m an E to F cup. How much larger could I go?’ .... 🤣🤣🤣. Maybe he meant reduction?

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

davidc4430 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 09:34:45 GMT

well, i guess we all like what we like, with me its a girl who is

breathing.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

domino-710 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 09:35:49 GMT

I think your ' racist ' boyfriend has a sense of humour.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

not_for_sale — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 14:31:58 GMT

@icyfroth wrote:
"If the reverse was a white man saying it about black "chicks" it would be considered racist".

I agree. But either way it may be racist and it may not. It all depends on where he's coming from. I think too much of a big deal is made about this type of thing these days and people sometimes read things into other people's statements which don't belong. Your and his views on racism might be different and that's ok IMO. If he's not a racist in other ways, and it's otherwise not interfering with your relationship, then why not just enjoy each other for who you both are.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

kopenhagen5 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 21:29:21 GMT

@krylekathe1 wrote:
Why should I accept him as he is if I can improve him?

Much rather bend a man to my will than let him think for himself.

And of course he thinks i’m attractive; I am attractive.

😂😂😂

Although he did ask if I’ve ever considered getting a boob job and I was like ‘dude, I’m an E to F cup. How much larger could I go?’ .... 🤣🤣🤣. Maybe he meant reduction?

Now the thread just looks like a wind up.

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

bright.ton42 — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 22:38:41 GMT

@davidc4430 wrote:
well, i guess we all like what we like, with me its a girl who is

breathing.

Ooh that's racist towards that aren't breathing

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

tasfleur — Sat, 04 Nov 2017 22:50:29 GMT

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

janeababe — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:07:15 GMT

@bright.ton42 wrote:
@davidc4430 wrote:
well, i guess we all like what we like, with me its a girl who is

breathing.
Ooh that's racist towards that aren't breathing

errr...no.... thats called discrimination

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

sandypas — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:12:15 GMT

Tones of Pink Poodle??

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

freddie*rooster — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:16:12 GMT

Not one of your better threads but you've still got IT

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

janeababe — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:17:33 GMT

@krylekathe1 wrote:
Why should I accept him as he is if I can improve him?

Much rather bend a man to my will than let him think for himself.

And of course he thinks i’m attractive; I am attractive.

😂😂😂

Although he did ask if I’ve ever considered getting a boob job and I was like ‘dude, I’m an E to F cup. How much larger could I go?’ .... 🤣🤣🤣. Maybe he meant reduction?

LOL... funny

I once had an old War Army Matron as a client. She had a saying, that I think is very relevant here.

she'd say: SELF PRAISE IS NO RECOMMENDATION!!!

Perhaps you could write that on a piece of paper and staple it to your size F bra!

Do you actually know the meaning of bra cup sizes? I didnt invent this of course, but I found it ... errrr.... acurate to a degree.

A = Adorable

B = Brainy

C = Catch of the Century

D = Delightfully Dumb

E = Enormously stupid
F = Forget it.... all boob, no brains!

Re: My racist boyfriend ...

freddie*rooster — Sun, 05 Nov 2017 03:17:57 GMT

high five Sandy