topic Re: Tolerance in Community Spirit

Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 03:56:48 GMT

http://betolerant.wordpress.com/

Be-Tolerant

Tim Vann

'Bullying may be defined as the activity of repeated, aggressive behavior intended to hurt another person, physically or mentally. Bullying is characterized by an individual behaving in a certain way to gain power over another person.'

'I am not bullied as an adult. I do not bully as an adult. I know it happens though. People are being ignored, insulted, and mentally tortured by their adult peers. Bullying does not stop in high school, and adults can be just as cruel and mean as teenagers. But one is not supposed to be bullied as an adult; one should be able to deal with criticism. Grow some backbone. Not take it so seriously.

What I believe to be the root of bullying evil is the feeling of superiority we have. My belief is better than your belief. My country is better than your country. My political views are better than yours. If you do not believe what I believe, you are stupid and wrong. And I can tell the whole world you are stupid. Freedom of speech and so on. And teach my children that people that hold different views are stupid. “But my children are not bullies. Not my children. They are respectful and tolerant, just like me.” Right….

Bullying happens when someone is different in the eyes of the bully. Is a threat. If the bully wants to feel better about himself and attacks someone that cannot fend for him/herself.. Bullying is not restricted to the school or sports we use to go to. Is has nothing to do with age.

But I suppose that the once you have been bullied, you will always remember your first bullies. How hard and unfair it was. Arbitrarily even in most cases. Because you had glasses or funny teeth. The memory and pain will always stay with you. I hope you are being treated better now.

I hope that one day there will be no more bullying. But that is not enough for me. No more racism. No more religious battles fought with real bombs and guns. No more intolerance towards gays and lesbians.

It takes more to make better world. A lot more. From everybody. And not only after your cried about a teenage suicide. All the time. Developed yourself. Learn about a different culture. Accept differences. Because if you will not, I bet your children will neither.'

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:03:15 GMT

http://humanrights.gov.au/bullying/cyberbullying/index.html

What is cyberbullying?

Cyberbullying is bullying using technology. For instance, it involves using the internet, mobile phone or other technology like a camera to bully and so hurt or embarrass someone.

[4] It can happen anonymously, at any hour, anywhere and reach a vast audience.

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Cyberbullying has a number of unique features:

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it allows for a potentially infinite audience to view or participate it is often anonymous as perpetrators can hide behind false identitiesit has a permanency of expression as information put online can be difficult to remove, and may be recorded and archivedit may be difficult to escape from the bullying as people often use technology everyday and in the case of mobile phones can be constantly contactablecontent can be duplicated easilycontent is often searchable.

What does cyberbullying look like?

Bullying on the internet or using mobiles can include:[7]

being sent mean and/or anonymous text messages

receiving nasty or threatening messages through social networking sites

people sending photos or videos of you to other people with the intention of embarrassing you

people spreading rumours about youpeople intimidating or harassing you

people trying to stop you from communicating with others

people hacking into, or stealing passwords to access your online accounts (e.g. Facebook or My Space)

any form of communication that is discriminatory.

Re: Tolerance

the_hawk* — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:19:57 GMT

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_playing

Re: Tolerance

robyns*quest — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:41:03 GMT

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Victim_mentality

Re: Tolerance

cherry*135 — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:44:20 GMT

I was looking for something like what is in your link recently, hawk.

It is Summer holidays, time to be out smelling the roses. If I had young children I wouldn't have time to post on here much.

Re: Tolerance

cherry*135 — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 04:46:54 GMT

The worst thing about anyone (speaking generally) who claims to be a victim of bullying or stalking is when they exhibit the same behaviours themselves - bumping old threads to add a snide comment to target a particular poster, bringing up personal details from past threads, etc etc.

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:29:49 GMT

http://www.kidshelp.com.au/teens/get-info/hot-topics/cyber-bullying.php

What is cyberbullying all about?

People everywhere use new technology to keep in touch with friends, organise social events, share photos and have fun. Mobile phones, emails, web sites, blogs, online games, Twitter, MySpace, Facebook and other networking sites can be a positive and fun tool to learn, express yourself and keep in touch.

Recently it seems there has been more sad news than happy news about technology and how it can be used to hurt other people. You may have heard news reports about the impacts of cyberbullying and you may even have experienced cyberbullying yourself. From what young people are telling us at Kids Helpline, it is an ongoing issue.

Bullying vs other types of conflict

It's important to remember that not all fighting or arguing is bullying. It is normal to have times when you have conflict and arguments with people. So, it is important to learn how to deal with conflict. Bullying is different to having an argument or a fight.

There are four things that can help you identify bullying over a normal argument between friends. Bullying is targeted and persistent behaviour that is intended to:

demean

intimidate

embarrass, or

harass

Bullying also involves:

An imbalance of power - for example a group ganging up on an individual or someone much more confident picking on someone who is less confidentRepeatedly picking on someone over the phone, email, website or online forum (for example, sending messages to the same person over and over)[1]

So, how is ‘cyberbullying’ different to bullying?

Basically, cyberbullying is an extension of bullying that goes on at school but the person doing the bullying uses new technology such as websites, text messages, social networking sites and emails to embarrass, demean, harass, intimidate, or threaten other people.

What young people have been saying to Kids Helpline about cyberbullying

Our counsellors have responded to lots of children and young people who are dealing with a range of different ‘cyberbullying’ related issues. We hear reports of cyberbullying that can range from situations such as arguments between friends that get out of control, to groups of young people deliberately targeting other young people[2].

At Kids Helpline, we recently conducted a survey about cyberbullying to help us understand how this issue affects young people. Here are some of the things they told us:

‘I was paranoid that people read what they were saying about me and that people judged me because of it’

‘I still feel scared and like I can't trust people like there going to turn on me... it is very hard for me to make friends even to this day even though it was over five years ago.’

Our survey also asked young people to let us know ‘what advice would you give a friend who is being cyber bullied?’ Here are some responses:

‘Don't be afraid of telling, it is the best thing you can do!’

‘Don't try and get even’

‘Blocking is your best friend!’

‘Don't take what they say to heart... there will always be people that love and care for you and they are the ones who really matter.’

Why is cyberbullying so hurtful and why do people do it?

It seems like cyberbullying is so hurtful because of the way that people can be bullied in front of all of their friends. They often can't get away from it because the messages come through on their mobile phone, to their email account or to their social networking site like MySpace.

There are lots of reasons that young people bully others. Sometimes it's about trying to become popular, or to intimidate or make someone afraid of them. Sometimes it's a reaction to being bullied themselves or because they are jealous of the person they are bullying.

What can you do if you're being cyber bullied?

The ways to deal with a problem of bullying, whether it's at school or on the internet is always different depending on the situation that you find yourself in. It may also depend on who is doing the bullying and how it started. It is important to keep in mind that dealing with bullying is about finding a solution that works for you. Sometimes it can be really hard to reach out for help or tell someone because you are concerned that people won't understand, know what to do or that it will make the situation worse.

There are important things that can be helpful to remember if you are being cyber bullied:

It is NOT your fault

There is help available (teachers, parents and counsellors can all be helpful people to talk with about your situation)

You can block the bullies from sending you messages or emails or stay off line for a while

You can get help from the police and take legal action if needed

It can help to keep copies of abusive messages that are sent to you because they can be used later as evidence

Re: Tolerance

lionrose.7 — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:36:10 GMT

I am surprised at this from this poster.

Re: Tolerance

azureline** — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:36:39 GMT

This has been done to death on here over the years, the worst one was a few years ago and caused a lot of grief for some, however, I suppose it was also good fodder for others?

An opportunity to harrass, demean etc certain other posters.

The problem is, most posters don't see they are doing anything wrong (including myself here) by ignoring the bullying, objecting to it, joining in etc.

The willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life is the source from which self-respect springs.

~Joan Didion~

Re: Tolerance

just_me_karen — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:39:40 GMT

And then there's this relevant Wikipedia link

http://en.wiktionary.org/wiki/hypocrite

it's only a short article, but it doesn't need much explanation.

Re: Tolerance

the_hawk* — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:45:01 GMT

Oh dear I can see lots of slaps happening tonight and I wont be here to see the carnage 😮

all the best with this thread those that dare to post

Re: Tolerance

lionrose.7 — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:47:37 GMT

Have a nice friday night out Hawk.

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:51:54 GMT

Lionrose, I would find it curious if someone

who could PTSL and LOL and say Seizure Later to someone who just said they are an epileptic showed a healthy interest in this topic.Have any of your family been victims of online bullying,death threats etc ?

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:54:22 GMT

I would think this is an important and relevant topic to everyone especially those with children and/or grandchildren.

Re: Tolerance

just_me_karen — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:55:02 GMT

Sorry AZ, bad timing on my link... It wasn't for you.

Re: Tolerance

the_hawk* — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:55:37 GMT

Have any of your family been victims of online bullying,death threats etc ?

I have been subjected to all of the above but refuse to be a victim

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:58:52 GMT

So therefore it shouldn't be discussed and we shouldn't teach our children ? and we shouldn't know the moral and legal limits ?

Hawk, what is your view on women who are sexually abused ?

Should the rapist be punished ?

Re: Tolerance

azureline** — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 05:59:23 GMT

I would think some people can brush it off, some need help to do so, some won't ask for help, some won't accept help....... it doesn't make bullying ok.

Re: Tolerance

izabsmiling — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 06:01:14 GMT

no Az it isn't OK .It can be illegal.

Re: Tolerance

the_hawk* — Fri, 04 Jan 2013 06:03:35 GMT

Personally depending on situation I would be happy to fire the gun, is that stating it strongly enough.

Perhaps rather than stating a thead with a few copy and pastes, if you have a real problem how about stating it so all can understand and offer useful help.

you seem to post stuff and then then wait to see which way it goes and then take a position that suits your argument for the day .

Do you have a real problem or not?