topic Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help in Selling

Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

black_ninja_victoria — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:27:30 GMT

hi there guys can you please give me advice...i sold an item but had to refund the money due to supplier issue, the buyer paid direct to my bank account and i told him friday, the last 3 days he has put up on my facebook and various sites that i ripped him off etc...i have sent ebay a message about what the buyer did and what he posted, are they allowed to do this?...is ebay at fault for giving him my details and phone number???..need advice please!!!

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

springyzone — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:41:45 GMT

On FB, there is a drop down arrow to the right of the post, one of the options will be 'report this post'.

Report the post to FB.

You might need to look at your privacy levels on FB too. Make it friends only.

The other thing you can do, which may be worthwhile & isn't a bad idea anyway, is change your name on FB.

There are a lot of people on the site who never use their whole real name-people such as police, teachers and so on.

When you change your name, those who are your friends will still see you and still be your friends but it will make it harder for people like this troublemaker to find you.

PS From what I can gather on ebay, names/addresses/phone numbers are available to buyers & sellers once there is a sale. So there is nothing unusual in that aspect.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

wendshees-rocks — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:41:29 GMT

Anyone that you're in a transaction with can request your details. All they get is your name and phone number. How did they find your facebook account? Why isn't your facebook account private? He would need to be your friend to be able to leave messages on it. Block him on facebook and delete any messages he's written.

Have you refunded him? If not, you will need to get his bank details so you can deposit the refund into his account.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

wendshees-rocks — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 15:47:15 GMT

@springyzone wrote:
On FB, there is a drop down arrow to the right of the post, one of the options will be 'report this post'.

Report the post to FB.

You might need to look at your privacy levels on FB too. Make it friends only.

The other thing you can do, which may be worthwhile & isn't a bad idea anyway, is change your name on FB.

There are a lot of people on the site who never use their whole real name-people such as police, teachers and so on.

When you change your name, those who are your friends will still see you and still be your friends but it will make it harder for people like this troublemaker to find you.

PS From what I can gather on ebay, names/addresses/phone numbers are available to buyers & sellers once there is a sale. So there is nothing unusual in that aspect.

Despite it being facebook policy that you have to use your real name (and sometimes they will shut you down and request ID to open you back up), I don't use my real name any more. Not because I'm worried about people finding me, but work was dictating what sites we can and can't belong to. By changing my name, they have to prove that it's me that belongs to a site. I put a note on my page the day before changing so people would be aware.

One of my pets has his own facebook page and he got shut down a few weeks ago because they said it wasn't his real name. I had to create a fake ID to show them, which then got the account up and running again.

If you don't want to be found but still use your real name, I think there's somewhere in the settings where you can block yourself from search results.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

lyndal1838 — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 16:35:17 GMT

I am assuming that you have done the refund and the money has not yet reached his account.

Have you explained that it will take several days to appear in his account?

Ebay is not to blame.....a member can request the contact details for any member that they are in a transaction with.....you would have received an email from ebay with the buyer's details at the same time.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

harley_babes_hoard — Thu, 13 Aug 2015 20:37:43 GMT

this is the first thing that comes up on google on how to block

To block someone:

Click at the top right of any Facebook page.
Click How do I stop someone from bothering me?
Enter the name or email address of the person you want to block and click Block.
If you entered a name, select the specific person you want to block from the list that appears.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

digital*ghost — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 02:07:23 GMT

Just in case anyone doesn't know this, the default setting on Facebook (and many other sites) is to allow your profile to be searchable by your email address (last time I checked, you could on eBay as well, but they show very limited information - i.e. disguised user ID and FB number only, with no direct link). If you use the same email address for eBay / PayPal etc, unless you change the setting, it won't matter what name you have on your FB profile.

I think (but not 100% sure) your Facebook profile can also be found via a phone number search, so it might pay to check your privacy settings and make sure you can't be found via details you have to give out to some people by necessity.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

imastawka — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 02:18:22 GMT

There's an elephant in the room...............

i sold an item but had to refund the money due to supplier issue

Meaning OP sold something they didn't physically have.

Mistake right there, and the buyer is called stupid?

Sorry , but that's my take on it

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

lyndal1838 — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 03:04:59 GMT

Must admit I nearly didn't open this thread. Calling a buyer stupid does not sit well with me either Stawks.

Rather than "stupid" I would have called him annoyed.

But his behaviour is hardly acceptable either.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

springyzone — Fri, 14 Aug 2015 04:59:42 GMT

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I know police are told not to use their real names or even anything too close to their real names, for security reasons.

I might be in trouble, I have 4 FB accounts, one of the names ends in candycrush.

The first account is the real me, the other 3 my friends, family & I use to unblock game levels. Very useful. I do hope I don't get sprung as a couple of the names are easy to see are aliases.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

transport-posters — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 07:28:21 GMT

There's probably been "Stupid Seller!!..Please Help" posts before in the buying forum. 🙂

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

thecatspjs — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 07:33:59 GMT

@lyndal1838 wrote:
Must admit I nearly didn't open this thread. Calling a buyer stupid does not sit well with me either Stawks.

Rather than "stupid" I would have called him annoyed.

But his behaviour is hardly acceptable either.

Um ...... when you start applying this rule to others that regularly post on these boards and draw attention to their posts for calling buyers and sellers by the term "numpties" then someone might believe your post above is sincere.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

davewil1964 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 08:27:42 GMT

Can we expect to see something constructive from you during your, probably, limited current window of opportunity?

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

thecatspjs — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 09:09:25 GMT

@davewil1964 wrote:
Can we expect to see something constructive from you during your, probably, limited current window of opportunity?

LOL thats quite pot kettle 🙂

If you mean that you intend reporting my posts then knock yourself out. If you mean something else ... same.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

lyndal1838 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 09:26:13 GMT

@thecatspjs wrote:
@lyndal1838 wrote:
Must admit I nearly didn't open this thread. Calling a buyer stupid does not sit well with me either Stawks.

Rather than "stupid" I would have called him annoyed.

But his behaviour is hardly acceptable either.
Um ...... when you start applying this rule to others that regularly post on these boards and draw attention to their posts for calling buyers and sellers by the term "numpties" then someone might believe your post above is sincere.

Please show me where I have called anyone a numpty.

Do you ever offer anything constructive on the boards these days?

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

thecatspjs — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 10:03:13 GMT

That you do not find my views or comments as constructive is your problem, not mine. Maybe start a thread on that ??

I did not post that YOU called anyone a numpty. I was referring to your silence over many years and numerous posts when very regular posters post that others are numpties.

My comments are on topic - as you raised the issue of calling buyers stupid in an earlier post. I was very surprised to see your comment as a regular who has never indicated they had a problem with this.

It would be great if you continue to speak and up and discourage regulars from using stupid or numpties when referring to eBayers in their posts too

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

lyndal1838 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 10:10:48 GMT

@thecatspjs wrote:
That you do not find my views or comments as constructive is your problem, not mine. Maybe start a thread on that ??

It would be great if you continue to speak and up and discourage regulars from using stupid or numpties when referring to eBayers in their posts too

Why would I start a thread on what is constructive or not constructive?

My opinion is not an ebay problem, which is the purpose of these boards.

As I have NEVER started a thread on any topic I am hardly likely to start with the topic of my opinion of what is constructive and what is not.....neither will I discourage anyone from using any terms that they see fit to use.

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

thecatspjs — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 10:22:08 GMT

" Calling a buyer stupid does not sit well with me either Stawks.

Rather than "stupid" I would have called him annoyed"

Sorry I took your comments as discouraging calling buyers stupid.

Maybe you were encouraging it then. I can't see it myself, but thats ok, many perspectives on a thread are better than the same ol' same ol'

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

davewil1964 — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 11:55:11 GMT

@thecatspjs wrote:
@davewil1964 wrote:
Can we expect to see something constructive from you during your, probably, limited current window of opportunity?
LOL thats quite pot kettle 🙂

If you mean that you intend reporting my posts then knock yourself out. If you mean something else ... same.

No way. Too much comedic value.

But, if a question is asked and I have A solution I will post it. A bit differrent to just slagging off at regulars who invest their time...

Re: Stupid Buyer!!..Please Help

thecatspjs — Sat, 15 Aug 2015 12:11:47 GMT

*yawn*

post above doesn't even seek to disguise interpersonal attack

*bigger yawn*

poor, poor Davewil ...... so glad I could throw you a laugh .... seems to me you need a few....