topic Re: xoxo....a bit much? in Selling

xoxo....a bit much?

givemeaspell — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:39:28 GMT

okay so on the odd occassion I get asked questions re items im selling and the person signs off with xoxo, or calls me hello love or darling..........bit much isn't it? Tis the season I suppose, but sometimes it's not the season......LOL

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digital*ghost — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 12:49:08 GMT

Yeah, but what are you going to do...You can't really give them a lecture about pet names and such (as much as I'm sometimes tempted to). 😛

I used to be a bit o_O when strangers signed off messages with x's etc, but I've gotten used to that and just take it the same way as a smiley face. Have to admit I grimace a little at being called pet names (and would do even if I was very familiar with the person - I dislike it from everyone, not just strangers :^O ), but I just try to gloss over it and take it as well-intentioned.

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thesoulyearns — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 13:46:05 GMT

It might seem a bit much but it's flattering in a way. Plus, you're kind of guaranteed a great transaction with a buyer like that, aslong as everything is as described. So, it's nice way to start off a transaction.

One recent buyer signed off with "Love, (their name)". I found that nice.

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Anonymous — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:16:02 GMT

not weird at all imo. especially if they're of a younger age and therefore more flippant with endearments. it's not suppose to be taken seriously anyway. i see this regularly on various social media such as twitter, tumblr, etc.

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foxette-in-sox — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:40:22 GMT

LOL-I know a very professional & rather austere businesswoman who deliberately signs off on ALL correspondence to other professionals no matter what level of 'the food chain' they are

All my love

(name)

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lyndal1838 — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 14:52:22 GMT

not weird at all imo. especially if they're of a younger age and therefore more flippant with endearments. it's not suppose to be taken seriously anyway. i see this regularly on various social media such as twitter, tumblr, etc.

But the social media sites are a different kettle of fish...they are hardly a business environment where you would expect people to be more formal in their communication.

As for younger people being more flippant...they could do well to realise that they may be dealing with someone of the older generation who expects and appreciates a bit of formality in business dealings.

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thesoulyearns — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 15:32:11 GMT

But the social media sites are a different kettle of fish...they are hardly a business environment where you would expect people to be more formal in their communication.

As for younger people being more flippant...they could do well to realise that they may be dealing with someone of the older generation who expects and appreciates a bit of formality in business dealings.

I rarely get questions from anyone (:() but I don't really mind if someone is not totally formal in their questions. Buyers are just regular people - some formal, some not. In a department store setting, a potential buyer will use their own language to communicate with a staff member, so the same most likely applies on the internet. Aslong as the message gets across, that's the main thing, IMO.

With the advent of iPhones and all of that, I feel it's actually decreasing the formality of online messages as far as grammar and punctuation.

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Anonymous — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 15:42:21 GMT

@ lyndal

fair enough. I certainly don't mind it the least bit and used to all kinds of internet shorthand. all my dealings are done in a very friendly and casual manner as opposed to straight up formal anyway. I'm much more concerned about the rude and nasty sellers/buyers

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Anonymous — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 15:44:48 GMT

@ thesoulyearns

You made some great points. couldn't agree more 😄

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xena-and-alex — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 16:08:31 GMT

Don't worry OP - not everyone loves you.

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vnaill — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:06:57 GMT

You know what I'm sick of LOL and all other acronyms.

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putney32 — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:12:01 GMT

You know what I'm sick of LOL and all other acronyms.

heee hee my ex-son in law has just opened a sweet shop called

LOL : )

Lots of Lollies with the : ) like the old smiley face on the window!!!!

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***super_nova*** — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:46:18 GMT

Sending OX to total strangers is creepy, but I wonder if it is just something people nowadays sign off with, without really thinking what these symbols mean. I sign off all my messages to my daughter with Love you ......... (my name) and xxxxx

The other day I wrote message to my daughter, then to male acquintence, and signed off in his message the same as to my daughter. OOOPS!!!!!! Wonder what he thought of it, but he did not mention anything, and I have since signed all my messages to him my usual considerably more formal way.

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phorum_junkie* — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:51:37 GMT

I don't care what they call me as long as they buy the thing they are asking about and pay me after doing so. 😉

If people want me to think they are numpties who am I to disabuse them :^O

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kopenhagen5 — Sat, 22 Dec 2012 21:53:59 GMT

It's very Australian, used in retails shops all the time as well.

I get luv, sweetie, darl all the time.

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givemeaspell — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 01:25:13 GMT

Don't worry OP - not everyone loves you.

shattered!

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icyfroth — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 02:26:45 GMT

Face it - you're a Grinch.

😄

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ratman0100 — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 07:39:19 GMT

It is very hard now with all this proper behaviour thing going about. Once it was proper to give a lady your seat on the bus. Now its a free for all. Once it was proper to wait for ladies to go through doors first if they were automatic or you would hold the door open to allow the lady through. I did that last week and it has now changed my outlook on things, the lady involved told me that she was capable of opening the door herself thank you very much in a rather unpleasant tone. Sad times indeed.

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thesoulyearns — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 11:20:03 GMT

ratman, it's a complicated topic... You had good intentions so that's what counts.

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lyndal1838 — Sun, 23 Dec 2012 11:36:30 GMT

Ratman...just interested...was the rude lady in the younger age group?

My 70 year old husband has always held doors for women and has been saying for years that he is tempted to not do it for anyone under about 45 as they usually abuse him as you were abused.

I am often amused at the looks a the faces of the elderly men who hold doors for me...they look quite stunned when I thank them very much. I am much more used to the younger generation of males almost knocking me over to get through the door first.

And just for the record...I do not appreciate being called darl or love or any other term of endearment by someone young enough to be my daughter.