Bribery

[lloydslights]

In a local shop recently, the bloke was looking for :

"a lolly to bribe my child for toilet training".

I was stunned.  

Thinking further, what would he bribe a child with to sit still in the dentist's chair?

Is this child a politician in the making?

DEB

[katydidthat]

I remember my son first having lollies ... he went to a party at age 2 ... it was about the same time that he first ate Easter eggs. I found that not having him used to sweets made it so much easier for me. I think that having him not eat candy in his early years has been a good thing in his later years ... no fillings, no toothaches ...

[purple_haize]

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@azureline** wrote:

Positive reinforcement.

I didn't have to bribe my kids but they were considerably easy to raise and toilet train. (plus I was a stay at home mum)

Mostly it was "do it or life will be unpleasant for you today"

I admit I use "positive reinforcement" with my grandchildren................. I'm old. I can't run as fast as I did in my 30's.

This morning it was " get in the car or we will be late and won't get a car park"

what the heck is with parents who go to school 40 mins early to get a park???

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I can relate to you with taking the grandchildren to school/kinder.........I dont know how they manage to get there early, I have enough trouble getting them in the care.

[purple_haize]

care= car

[channys_mum]

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@roserobin12 wrote:

3yrs and still in nappies, kindy's should charge extra.

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I am with you there. 

All aspects of your thinking on the subject. 

[boris1gary]

I'd like some grandkids, if i ever get any i will use positive incentives/rewards whatever when i have to and just give them lollies or toys or books whenever i feel like it.

[channys_mum]

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@boris1gary wrote:

I'd like some grandkids, if i ever get any i will use positive incentives/rewards whatever when i have to and just give them lollies or toys or books whenever i feel like it.

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What a lovely Nana you will be. It is a granparents job to spoil a little/lot/heaps.

That was the only hard part with raising Chan. I had to be somewhere between Mum and Nan. 

[sineaterdoodah]

thank you am*3!  yes,we call them parking lots. here in kansas a car park is where you leave your car for an extended length of time for storage. like if you're going on vacation for a few weeks,you take your car there,they shuttle you to the airport,and protect your car. it's much safer than long term parking at the airport.

most of the schools here in wichita,you aren't supposed to park to take your child inside,you just wait in line,drop off your child and a school monitor escorts them inside. the older kids do this,generally,they get extra credit points for volunteering.

[ruloinfovoter]

Here's what I've learned.

I've had two kids and have threee grandsons.

I don't refer to it as bribery, but positive reinforcement.  LOL

Or what I've done is let them choose.  Give them a little power, especially in those years where they can be tyrants, two, three years old.  Make it crystal clear it is their choosing.

Tell them, and you have to have their attention, that if this happens then that will happen.  Of course they will test the waters but with most of them, if they find out you mean it, it can make for some smooth sailing.

You need to find out what they value most though.  Some may value not eating peas over having popcorn later that night.

And then of course, there's the trump card, the grandma thing, we reserve the right!!!

[daydream**believer]

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@***super_nova*** wrote:

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@lurker172602 wrote:
I can't remember bribing them with food (but I may have) but I did usually promise to buy 1 Little Golden book if all 3 behaved nicely in the supermarket. They "policed" each other because if 1 mucked up they all missed out.

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reward for good behaviour is fine, but junk food as a reward is not OK.  That makes the kids regard it as something special, something very desirable and not always available = even more desirable. 

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Oh well, im a bad parent then because i rewarded my son with a chocolate frog when he did a number 2 on the loo. I recall it was over a week period and he got 5 choc frogs all up.

And yes, a chocolate frog is "something special" and he got it for doing something special.

He also got a star on his toilet chart.

Hes never asked for a choc frog since as i dont have any in the house anymore, but if hes a good boy while we are at the shops, now and then i'll buy him one as "something special"

Booo Hiss. Im such a bad parent and my 3 children are so bad lol

Just a little side note, as some of you know, my son has verbal apraxia. Four months ago, his vocab consisted of 3 words (Mum, Dad and bye). Now he has so many words and is making sentences, The other day he came up to me and very slowly and very carefully said "I.......want.......need..........like...........a.........wee". I am so proud of him 🙂

[sineaterdoodah]

that is WONDERFUL!!  you give him a hug from his "merkinyank" friend too please!!

it's so wonderful to me to read this, going verbal is SO cool for him!!