on โ03-05-2013 08:31 PM
on โ04-05-2013 09:07 AM
Same here, Martini ... we didn't have a tv until my son was 2 - 3 and then for years, all he was allowed to watch was the ABC ... no "action" movies until either Harry Potter or LOTR ... I bought him some dolls and he wasn't at all interested in them.
My friend in the UK has a daughter a little older than my son, and she refused to buy her DD "girlie" stuff when she was little. She grew into a Barbie fanatic.
It's interesting how some things seem to be innate, eh?
on โ04-05-2013 10:03 AM
Having had a loaded gun pointed at me on more than one occasion, no.
And that is understandable. I have been in the same situation but other than a personal experience making you wary and uncomfortable, then I stand by my earlier post.
I did not have the best upbringing, and while violence wasn't the norm it was certainly around yet I did not grow up wanting to fight or cause damage. In fact it made me the opposite and striving to do right and make sure my kid's did the same, not to mention ensuring they never had to go through what I wen through.
Some learn, some don't.
on โ04-05-2013 11:00 AM
yes I would and did.
on โ04-05-2013 12:02 PM
what else are cowboys or cops supposed to shoot with? ?:|
no role playing games??
i don't have a boy but if I did, yes, I would allow him to play with a toy gun.
and I even played with "war related toys" as a child. I had a really cool Soviet tank.
OMG!! Is that why I joined the Army? ๐ฎ
on โ04-05-2013 12:49 PM
do boys still play cops & robbers? i think i would prefer them to play outdoors with toy guns instead of computer games.
on โ04-05-2013 05:41 PM
This thread says a lot about how much some people around here trust the mental stability of their own offspring!
I wonder if that's due to any kind of genetic flaws/background ๐
Caine slew Able long before guns were ever invented ya know
There has never been a gun invented that fires itself without human intervention, so it's not the guns you need to concern yourselves about, only the minor percentage of freak outs that go crazy with them every so often, and if any one of your offspring has a leaning toward doing that sort of thing it won't be because they did or didn't play with aa toy gun as a kid :_|
I was raised being around real loaded guns, just as every other kid I knew back then was, but none of us has ever gone crazy with one and shot a dozen or people at the one time just for the hell of doing it.
Neither have I ever handled any gun unlawfully or unsafely. I have way too much respect for guns to ever do such a thing.
I've had more than my fair share of fully loaded weapons pointed in my general direction at differing times, some were even discharged with the sole intent of killing me if possible, but that's par for the course where I originally come from and still visit now and then.
You just have to learn to be a better shot than those who are shooting at you.
When I go back to SA later this year I'll be doing it via Kenya so I can pick up my personal armoury from a friends place before continuing on to SA as I certainly don't intend go back there without fully loaded guns, and be ready and prepared to use them in self defence if pushed to it.
The only place in SA I don't carry at least a loaded hand gun is when I'm visiting old ranger friend in the Kruger NP, but that doesn't mean to say a gun wouldn't be made available to me there if required.
At least I always managed to avoid irate husbands and fathers when they may have been looking for me with loaded shotguns though ๐
Even had a couple of sheilas threaten me with that too :^O
on โ04-05-2013 06:30 PM
Wrong thread, Moorna - this one is about TOY guns.
on โ04-05-2013 06:33 PM
They probably are toy guns;-)
on โ04-05-2013 07:24 PM
I gave my son an old Barbie doll for the sake of being all encompassing...
He ripped barbies head off.. flipped her leg over and turned her into a machine gun.... ๐
what will influence your child into becoming violent is real life same sex role modeling and opposite parenting ideals.
If you are a man and beat your wife or partner then statistically your son will beat his partner...
If you are a woman and get beaten then chances are your daughter will think it is ok to put up with that and she will actively seek out men to replicate that exchange...
Now... This story makes me angry... it is not because he plays xbox he did this.. the only connection seems to be that is how they met..... I think that says more about teaching your child to not meet with people they play with online until they are much older rather than not to play xbox games.
Boy, 13, from Scotland slit friend's throat in Xbox row
Read more: http://www.news.com.au/technology/boy-13-from-scotland-slit-friends-throat-in-xbox-row/story-e6frfro...
on โ04-05-2013 08:30 PM
Yes it seems it wasn't so much the game (although why they were playing an 18+ game is problematic but that is another matter), it most likely was the war of words and exchange of insults that accompanied the game, coupled with some serious lack of anger management, that contributed to escalated violence. I'm still not sure if video games are a bad influence given the ratio of players and violent stories but I guess playing in a fake war is better than having to participate in a real one...