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[marwi_3023]

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/putting-psyche-back-psychotherapy/201609/why-wont-men-apolog...

[marwi_3023]

Directed at no one in particular.

Well maybe

[davidc4430]

i think we as a race like to think we are all normal on an individual perspective.

in that we think everyone thinks like i do.

reality is no one thinks exactly  like i do about everything, as the forums here show up regularly.

so when some of us make an error of judgment and we get pointed at and told 'your wrong' we cant fathom how we can be wrong.

then when we wake up to the fact we really are wrong, we need an excuse. thats where the 'well ok i was wrong BUT .....' comes into play.

if you watch youtube videos of traffic collisions, its a prime example, the person at fault almost allways gets out of their car and blames the person they hit. even though the video shows clearly they caused the dingle. they didnt give way, they ran a red light, they changed lanes without looking first ect ect

all drivers are guilty of some minor brain fade and usually its fine as there is no one else nearby.

id just like to say sorry for all the things ive done wrong in my life, ive learned from my mistakes and i'm sure i could repeat them exactly. (peter cook)

[not_for_sale2025]

"Why won't men apologise" is an incredibly generalised statement, sexist,

and implies women do. I note the psychologist largely relates his opinions to

work done with couples. That itself suggests that his views have somewhat

been formed by observations made of men (and women) with relationship

difficulties. I'm not sure that represents a sample that justifies such a bold

statement about a gender.

However, I too have noticed that 'some' men in troubled relationships that 

require help also have difficulties apologising. The relationship problems can

be complex, longstanding and deeply personal. I've chosen to mind my own

business because it became clear that the issues were too deep and personal

for a third person to judge.

But I've also noticed that some men in general do have difficulties saying

"I'm sorry" to anybody because they see it as a sign of weakness. Personally,

I think that's a shame because it can be a real sign of strength IMO.