The way he's revealed his ghastly shallow self-serving character is going to make it rather hard for you to grieve, isn't it? I found when my ex finally left that there was nothing left to mourn for, except possibly my own silly trusting nature. But I wasn't grieving- couldn't grieve for a relationship that had largely existed inside my own head. The man I had thought I loved was insubstantial: the guy who left was a painfully narcissistic individual I avoid where possible.

I hope I don't grieve for him once he's left. I'll keep referring to your post if I feel I am because you are right. How can I grieve for such a self-serving person who I thought 'loved' me when he doesn't know what real love is?


freddie. go have your nana nap. If it wasn't so hot in the bedroom and if I didn't have to venture out in the real world to 'stuff' I'd have one too. Ahhh sleep :-x

My beautiful daughter just popped in this morning. She said "it's hard for you now, short term, but your life can only get better. You have kept your integrity. Yes, it seems it's 'easy' for him, short-term, but look at where he's going to be long-term. He's quit his job, has to find another job in a country town and will most likely spend his evenings on Facebook while trying to push his feelings of guilt & shame down with booze".

Made me feel better 🙂 And she came with a Care Package - icecream, soft drinks, juice, icypoles :-x I showed her my Care Package from CS. She was amazed so many people care so much for someone they don't know in real life. :-x

Yay for Ms Mioux the pool fixit lady!!!! Well done! And what a gorgeous and wise daughter you have:-x

Ms Cat, is nonads paying you board or contributing towards the rent while he's still there?

Ms Cat, is nonads paying you board or contributing towards the rent while he's still there?

He's paying his share of the rent and bills. If he wasn't paying I'd have grounds to get him kicked out.

Make sure he doesn't slacken off before he leaves.....no finals of bills, no car keys

UHM Freddie 🙂

Miss Cat hope you are staying strong...:-)

Popped in to check that Ms Mioux is going Ok...

WOW! Pool fixer! I am Very impressed! ( funny how actually READING the manual makes things easy LOL)

No comment on Mr nonads....


One thought popped into my head though, make sure you get his set of house keys off him when he goes. This is REALLY important.
Sometimes these ex's think that they can still pop in whenever they feel like it , or pop in to "check if they left anything behind" when you are at work. NOT ON.

Better still change the locks once he goes. Who knows if he hasn't got another spare key "just in case".

Well doing on fixing the pool problem yourself! Although if you find pool maintenance too taxing you could always invest in a pool boy. A little eye candy never hurt anyone!:-p

Popped in to check that Ms Mioux is going Ok... WOW! Pool fixer! I am Very impressed! ( funny how actually READING the manual makes things easy LOL) No comment on Mr nonads.... One thought popped into my head though, make sure you get his set of house keys off him when he goes. This is REALLY important. Sometimes these ex's think that they can still pop in whenever they feel like it , or pop in to "check if they left anything behind" when you are at work. NOT ON.

I'm so proud of myself 'fixing' the pool 😄

Keys will be first thing on my mind on Moving Day (MD) that's for sure!

PS We came to an arrangement. He's taking the large screen TV which we are still paying off (in his name only). I get all Bond money (6 weeks worth) plus the smaller screen TV we got as a freebie. I'm happy with the arrangement. 😄

Thank you Tania 🙂