My OH used to say "She makes all the little decisions and I make the big ones.  Trouble is there are not many big ones to make".

it works for her so whats the big deal.

I agree too, PD....all relationships have their own internal dynamics.

What works for some doesn't work for others.

It ill behoves anyone to lay down a model for happiness and contentment

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@ca04 wrote:

Depends under what traditions you were brought up.

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I agree though it also would depend on what Country's 'current' definition of abuse is I think ?

to me the authors OH sounds like a sooky little boy who needs to be given his own way and/or needs to feel that he has more power than his wife .

someone recently mentioned  that man and women can't be equal because they are different 

equality isn't about being 'identical' ...

I don't see any mention of abuse in the OPs article. 

Yes Meep,  they are cavvies alright, one looks just like my little girl.