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@buzzlightyearsgirlfriend wrote:

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@2106greencat wrote:

wow buzz, a little empathy would go a long way.

 

Yes, I am a recovering alcoholic, and I knew I needed help and thank God my kids got in my face and helped me thorugh it.

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Meh.

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Wow - and I thought I had problems.

I pity you, I really do, sorry but to be that heartless......words fail me.

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@hahahavefun wrote:

I'll start by explaining more . She drinks Monday to Thursday from about 3.15 pm to between 9 - 10 PM only stopping at this time as she gets up for work those days at 4.45 am and leaves home at 6am . No breakfast only a cup of coffee . 

 

Friday she will start again around 3.15 pm and can drink till midnight till 1 or 2 the next morning .

 

Saturday she will start again around 1 to 3 pm and again will drink till early hours of the morning .

 

She never has breakfast , has lunch and dinner but these are not what you would call a large meal .

 

She drinks bourbon with Diet Coke which i have been told is worse then having normal coke cola.

 

A family member told her once she had a problem and she went off saying it isnt a problem because she budgets for her drinking .

 

If her time is delayed in the afternoon by a few hrs to have her first drink she starts getting agitated or peeved off .

 

Im very surprised she hasnt seriously hurt herself giving how she has been found some mornings with the latest episode of breaking a floor to ceiling high glass mirror in a section . Her excuse is she tripped over a towel because she never hax the light on .

 

I have been told unless people like this are willing to admit they have a problem there is nothing you can do .

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But at least you want to try - it's people like you that matter, so you do what you feel comfortable with - if it doesn't work out you will at least know you have tried to help a fellow human being who is quite obviously in trouble.

If it does work out...enough said. Don't be afraid to try.

The No to everything approach will never work.

An addict has to be treated like a child to a certain degree.

When you give a child instruction, you need to limit it to the amount they can handle at one time - chucking out "do this, then do that, do it this way" is information overload -  you need to give them time to absorb one thing at a time.

Same with addiction - deal with one addiction, then slowly deal with another if another exists.

Tell a person to stop gambling, stop smoking, stop drinking - all at once and you will have a meltdown of the highest order.

We can only deal with what we can when we can.

too right greencat, it took me a few goes to accept the cold turkey concept

"relasped" a few times and on the hard stuff too

evenutally got used to the idea though 

these days i do have an occassional drink duff, it's a waste of time and money really... i could down 2 bottles of wine before i feel an effect...go for the taste mainly, lol

hand in hand joz - you take it one day at a time

so far 287 days for me, and it is bloody hard, and every day I have to convince myself to NOT have a drink, rather than latch on to the first excuse I can come up with to have one.

day by day