yeh, i really think he is using the "retail therapy" to fill a void.
He is alone in the house everynight and the only thing he knows how to do on the computer is buy on ebay. He doesnt even know how to pay for the stuff. I have to pay for it. Then he gives my sister the cash and she puts it in my account.
Not that we mind doing that. At first it was only the odd item now and then but he is going way overboard now.
I will have to find the right words to remind him of his 5 year plan
He is alone in the house everynight and the only thing he knows how to do on the computer is buy on ebay. He doesnt even know how to pay for the stuff. I have to pay for it. Then he gives my sister the cash and she puts it in my account.
Not that we mind doing that. At first it was only the odd item now and then but he is going way overboard now.
I will have to find the right words to remind him of his 5 year plan
All the best.
If he does get angry or defensive try to keep in mind that it is not with you.
Does he have good supports?Friends etc
Take Care.
He has just joined a friendship group. Last "excursion" he went on with them was to an antique fair where he bought more stuff.
All the friends he and Mum had years ago, have vanished
"Does he have a close friend or anyone else who could talk to him?"
no. No one.
no. No one.
he's done councelling a few times but didnt like it.
The group has been good for him. He has made friends but, they are all very new and although they know Mums situation, they do not really know of dads struggles and depression and now this buying problem
The group has been good for him. He has made friends but, they are all very new and although they know Mums situation, they do not really know of dads struggles and depression and now this buying problem
If it is not a financial problem, ie: he can afford it, I think there is nothing wrong with what he is doing. His money, his life. Many men would have walked away long ago but he sounds like a wonderful man and husband.
I dont really think he can afford this much.
The money isnt my issue, its the amount he is getting and that i think he is getting a bit of a bad habit. It's like he is using the spending and buying to fill a void. I worry it will get even more out of hand.
"Amy, what are your sisters thoughts?"
Shes very concerned but she has a lot going on at the moment and is very stressed. She also has a hard time talking to dad about things like this. Harder then i do, as im not face to face with him when delicate things need to be discussed
