Yes I understand your needs stilleto, I really do.
So she may not be aboriginal.
That she is also adopted makes it doubly difficult because she may not have any idea at all of where she came from originally. She may only know her adopted family and that's no use to you.
Yes I understand you need to know and you need to pass on some information to the next generation, but if your mum doesn't know what her own history is other than she was adopted... there is little use expecting her to have the answers.
I am picking you are still fairly young. You have the 'I want, no matter what' attitude still and that is not going to help you... sorry I don't mean that as a criticism, just a comment on the fact that it won't help you.
Yes, you are desperate, I understand that too. One of the reasons I understand is that I had cancer some 12 years ago and lost both breasts. At the time I had no idea that my in father's family, three of his siblings had died of cancer, and of the 8 cousins, 4 of us had had cancer and now I'm the only one left. Maybe if I had been aware of this family trait I might have been more careful.
Okay, so with that door slammed shut in your face, you are going to have to pretend your mum is dead and try another way around the problem.
Where did she grow up?
Do you adoptive parents have any ideas? Have they told you their story of why they adopted you?
This is a detective story. I would note all you do know about your past and the little you know about your mum and then join forces (gently) with your aunt and see what happens next.
What school did she go to?
What hospital were you born in?
Where? Maybe she was living in the nearby suburbs.
Get to know her sister, you aunt more and see if you can both get her to recall more of her past. She might not know she knows anything, but with just general talk over a cup of coffee it could trigger something.
This is going to be a long and difficult trip for you, but keep you mind open to the fact she may not be aboriginal and therefore there may be other resources you can open.
Keep in with us and if we come up with any more ideas we will let you know. 🙂
So she may not be aboriginal.
That she is also adopted makes it doubly difficult because she may not have any idea at all of where she came from originally. She may only know her adopted family and that's no use to you.
Yes I understand you need to know and you need to pass on some information to the next generation, but if your mum doesn't know what her own history is other than she was adopted... there is little use expecting her to have the answers.
I am picking you are still fairly young. You have the 'I want, no matter what' attitude still and that is not going to help you... sorry I don't mean that as a criticism, just a comment on the fact that it won't help you.
Yes, you are desperate, I understand that too. One of the reasons I understand is that I had cancer some 12 years ago and lost both breasts. At the time I had no idea that my in father's family, three of his siblings had died of cancer, and of the 8 cousins, 4 of us had had cancer and now I'm the only one left. Maybe if I had been aware of this family trait I might have been more careful.
Okay, so with that door slammed shut in your face, you are going to have to pretend your mum is dead and try another way around the problem.
Where did she grow up?
Do you adoptive parents have any ideas? Have they told you their story of why they adopted you?
This is a detective story. I would note all you do know about your past and the little you know about your mum and then join forces (gently) with your aunt and see what happens next.
What school did she go to?
What hospital were you born in?
Where? Maybe she was living in the nearby suburbs.
Get to know her sister, you aunt more and see if you can both get her to recall more of her past. She might not know she knows anything, but with just general talk over a cup of coffee it could trigger something.
This is going to be a long and difficult trip for you, but keep you mind open to the fact she may not be aboriginal and therefore there may be other resources you can open.
Keep in with us and if we come up with any more ideas we will let you know. 🙂
First of all yet your DNA, not a blood test, it's just a simply test getting cells from inside your mouth, so you have it ready.
Can you walk around Heidleberg and see if anyone in the shops might know him?
50 is still pretty young so he could be working in the area?
Now why can't Joe have a name like Sylvester... there are so many Joes and I bet his other name is Smith :^O
Good idea seeing if you can trace your father by DNA.. are you dark-ish as in a Greek background?
Keep that thinking cap on, at any moment something could pop up, just be patient. 🙂
Can you walk around Heidleberg and see if anyone in the shops might know him?
50 is still pretty young so he could be working in the area?
Now why can't Joe have a name like Sylvester... there are so many Joes and I bet his other name is Smith :^O
Good idea seeing if you can trace your father by DNA.. are you dark-ish as in a Greek background?
Keep that thinking cap on, at any moment something could pop up, just be patient. 🙂
Hello izzy 🙂
Well a day of gardening with my two mower men cleaning windows, cutting the grass and triming rose bushes along with a whole lot of other stuff. Then when they left they took the rubbish too... gosh I'm luckey to have such gems.
Now I can relax and do some ancestry work 😛
Well a day of gardening with my two mower men cleaning windows, cutting the grass and triming rose bushes along with a whole lot of other stuff. Then when they left they took the rubbish too... gosh I'm luckey to have such gems.
Now I can relax and do some ancestry work 😛
