That's what I thought initially.

The way the fee reversal in PayPal is shown could be misinterpreted.

I haven't done a cancellation for awhile now, but last time I refunded (minus the 30c), then sent the cancellation request. The buyer accepted it and it was done and dusted (I may or may not have fabricated a few lies along the lines of, you need to accept the cancellation request as soon as you can, so neither of us get a black mark on our account. Seems to scare them into submission).

*tippy*toes*

Seems to scare them into submission

You can't be serious!

There is no one on the planet who is possibly scared  about a "black mark" on their account! What account? Ebay account?

What is this - now I have heard everything!

Ebay is here for buyers & sellers convenience - not the other way round.

This is a joke - right?

No, it's not a joke. If someone wants to cancel, the least they can do is accept it. I shouldn't have to wait 8-10 days before I can close the cancellation because they decided they didn't want it any more. If they accept the cancellation, I can relist straight away. It's a 2 way street. There are plenty of people who are worried about black marks on their account, especially low feedback buyers, who seem to be the ones that change their mind after they've paid. If they change their mind and haven't paid they get hit with an UPI.