as a buyer, it is very dispiriting to make a purchase, pay, and have a deafening silence from the buyer. seller.

Yes, sorry, mistake.

As a buyer what I find annoying is sellers sending me any communication other than the email generated missives that I cannot turn off,

I don't want an email from the seller, I was just saying that if instant feedback is given, it is an acknowledgement.    Even better, as I said, if the seller marks the item as posted, then I do get an automated email from ebay, which is good.