I work in playskools and playskools last month playskools had organized a lundby sale for the kids who loves to play with dollhouse and dolls. It was so amazing can't tell you...

I am agreeing with Catmad on all she is saying - you are coming across as way too agressive and demanding, you are asking way too much of the teachers and of the school (one on one for an hour every day?? Oh come on!).

Your daughter is only in Year 1 so you have so many years of frustration ahead of you because the school will NEVER be able to agree to your demands. It's just not possible in a mainstream system and I don't believe it is fair to ask it.

My child (11) has a severe learning disability. I view what the school does as a bonus to all that I do - pyschologists, after school tutoring 4 days a week, catch up homework modules I find on the net etc. Whilst my daughter gets some support (she's part of a small literacy and numeracy group, she gets 1 hour a week of one on one with another teacher for reading,she gets a reduced curriculum and homework load etc), I am grateful that they do this. But I don't expect it.

And there is no way you would be happy with a Montessori school.

1. I also have to agree that you have come across as very aggressive and demanding.

I notice that you are concerned about your daughters social development and mention that she is relaxed at home and achieves well in testing that she obviously not doing as well in at school, the implication being that she is anxious and stressed at school? Your child, from what I understand, has already attended 2 different schools in her very short school life and you are considering changing her to a third school. Have you considered that a little continuity and a chance to become familiar and relaxed in her school environment may have some benefit?

No idea where that 1. came from and no idea how to get rid of it!

I feel for the child. It sounds like she is going to have to be a super over acheiver to live up to her mother's expectations of her.

Let her relax and enjoy life a little. She's in grade 1 and doesn't need her life to be strictly structured for every minute of the day.

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@freakiness wrote:

I feel for the child. It sounds like she is going to have to be a super over acheiver to live up to her mother's expectations of her.

Let her relax and enjoy life a little. She's in grade 1 and doesn't need her life to be strictly structured for every minute of the day.

 

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I agree freaky. We are talking about a 7 year old here! Even the way you speak about the great supportive regional school she USED to go to is unrealistic - she would have been in kindergraden then? It's a completely different environment to Year 1.

I have no academic expectations for my 11 year old. She achieves what she can and we encourage whatever talents she has. And I have never ever compared her results against her classmates - how can that be in any way helpful?

So...... how did it go aspiemum? when you presented this to the teacher? Did you get what you asked for? and how is L doing?

You are a teacher at a Special School so have you ever considered that maybe a special school might be better for L?

Maybe even if she only attends 2 days a week or so.  I also think you are coming accross as aggressive in your approach.  And yes I understand that you are paying private school fees and you want a good education for L but all the other parents are paying the same fees as you are and they won't be happy if the teacher spends most of her time with L or writing notes to you about L while their kids sit there twiddling their thumbs.

Have you considered home schooling your daughter? 

I don't think you would find Montesori a good option either.  It is a very different schooling style to regular schools and it might be a real struggle for L to cope with the change.