Yoda , If you read from the beginning you may understand.From early on in the thread sexual involvement was mentioned.

Some argued that it is OK , that no harm would be done, that the boy will enjoy it so it's OK, that a 21 year old is not the same as a 40 something year old..

There has been information added through the thread about age of consent Laws ,20 yr old women charged with sexual penetration of boys under 15, the punishment and effects on the adult men who were victims of sexual assult by women...even those who did not see it as abuse (which it seems is common), the difference in sentences, parents views on that etc.

That is all relevant.