Hello Bluecat 

I admire you and always have and I think that you know that.I wish you and everyone else who posts here all the very best..

I don't post what I am about to post  easily nor without very good reason (I wouldn't post it otherwise) and I do it out of concern for others .I wish I didn't have the personal experiences which are the reason for my concern.

I posted as you know on the last Mental Health thread.As a carer I shared experiences in the hope that I was helping and also raising awareness.It took a lot for me to do that...but some like to or don't want to see it that way...it will to them be a weak thing to do .I know as most should where the weakness actually exists for people who do that...but knowing that doesn't mean it can't hurt when that sort of information is used by the wrong people (those same people can enter and read ANY thread)

especially when things are really difficult in RL as anyone who has mental illness in their lives knows well.The difficult thing is that if that info isn't there others don't know when those times are ...then again those who do give others a hard time over such things may tend to not care if they know when those times are ...and even see their target at his/her weakest point (in RL) and take advantage of that.

I cared and worried and lost sleep over posters on the thread .At the time I considered many to be 'friends'.The reality of course is that I knew no one personally and the longer i am on the boards the reality of that becomes clearer and clearer.I, unfortunately learnt to be careful and keep a bit of a distance because the truth is that all posters can be anyone ,anyone can read and use what you post to hurt you in the most painful of ways,If not now..then later on down the track  .There are also people who will take advantage of others kindness and hurt them even while doing that .My weakness was that I would forgive too much if I thought another poster was doing it tough.I could be played like that and looking back I didn't need that in my life and it made my life more difficult when it was already difficult enough .I think everyone should know that their own health,safety and wellbeing comes first and that if ever a poster feels the need to hurt others or is being hurt by others and you can't overcome that...please for your own sake and the sake of all who post here consider the need to step back a bit and address those things.

In an ideal world  the shared discussion here is safe from abuse and we would all be safe,happy and well and genuinely good people to boot .Reality isn't like that.My words didn't come out how I want them to...please know my intent is good .

All the best to this thread and each and every poster who posts within it