I have never moved in with elderly parents, but I have taken care of my parents and my parents in law for many years. Besides being good company and giving them a sense of security that you are always available when they need help makes a big difference to frail, old people.

Ask your mother how she usually does her housework. Changeing bedding, cleaning floors and bathroom etc. and try to fit those chores around her routines. Things Council Home Help does, but having a daughter instead of a stranger to do those jobs makes a big difference.

Then there may be a bit of garden to take care of. Mowing lawns, weeding and pruning. Things your father most likely does, but with age the bones are not as strong to work for long hours and aches and pains are the result.

Try to do things together with them, as a team. Housework or gardening can be shared and made as fun times. Also ask your mother about cooking the meals. Perhaps you can cook when at their home and she can have a spell.

Just try to work things out to the satisfaction of all. It really is not that hard when you love the people you are going to share part of your life with.

I wish you and yours all happiness.

Erica