Darkie......that one got solved last night.:-D

I am free for any searches......just message me.

If you are in Ancestry.com punchy, then you can go on a 'fishing trip'. I put one name in and see if any green leaves come up. If they don't I try the other name and see what happens. It's a somewhat desperate solution but I have had some success with it.

Thanks darkie, all solved James and George are the same person.

Its quite satisfying solving a mystery like that 😄

Well where do i start! I was adopted, have since foound my birth mother, roughly 10 years ago. Now, we had a great relationship up until a year or 2 ago becuase i was wanting to know about my heritage. She was also adopted, and i think one of the "stolen childre" I believe, as well as most people who know me, that i have aboriginal background. In any case, we had a falling out because she couldnt care less about finding out any of her info in the near future until her adoptive mother has passed away. So, im looking for any way i can find out about my natural maternal grandparents. This is mostly because i also have no tie to my birth father. Apparently i was a back seat of th car job with a run away teen mum who doesnt want to disclose any info, so i have no way of finding out any info from that side.Any suggestions?

Stiletto, first, if your mother is aboriginal, then it is not considered a good idea to talk of the dead and that could be why she has clammed up. Also there could be some very painful memories for her if she was part of the stolen generation... child abuse, sexual abuse, the reason you might have been a car back seat result... little girls who were sexually abused so often were sexually developed very young.

Ancestry probably not an easy solution unless you can find a father. The first thing I would do is try and find where your mother was raised and see if you can trace some of your rellies that way. There would surely be some sort of records... then maybe not. They were very harsh times.

So many people have little chance of finding their backgrounds and it's so difficult to accept- as you say you have a right to know.

You might have some luck with these sites

http://www.google.com.au/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=The+aboriginal+stolen+generation&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&redir_esc=&ei=rKwLTpT2Mc-cmQXE7dGvAQ

and

http://www.google.com.au/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=Aboriginal+affairs&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&redir_esc=&ei=iawLTsfWJ8LemAXY363CAQ

If she was not part of the stolen generation, do you know where she lived as a kid? For instance, NSW, VIC OR QLD.

Frankly, I would make up with her and not mention this wish of yours, just get her to trust you again and wait and see if you can get her to talk about her past. Sooner or later, if you are patient and kind she will let something slip that you might be able to trace.

This a case of you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar 🙂

Good luck

Thanks darkie, all solved James and George are the same person. Its quite satisfying solving a mystery like that 😄

Isn't it a great feeling when a piece falls into place 🙂

Stiletto it seems you have tried all options open to you and yes you do have a right to know - an inherited right but you also have to understand that those might be dreadful memories for your mother and no one has ever helped her face them.

You were adopted and I imagine she 'gave you away in her heart' as well, so the natural bonding never took place for her.

Even losing you to adoption could be a painful story in itself.

I would suggest you try and spend more time with aboriginal people and get to know and understand in your heart what the stolen generation went through and are going through even today... that way you might find the right words and feelings to approach her again.

This falling out is acutally a good sign. She did want to meet you again and now you have had a real mother/daughter fall out and I think it is up to you (not that it's necessarily fair) to try again, but very slowly and gently, knowing you are treading on egg shells.

Patience is the key, a couple of years or more, and start with saying, you are sorry that you upset her, that you really do want to be in contact with her and please could you start again.

She is the key to your wishes to try humble pie 🙂

I understand your wishes....I am adopted too.....and also of aboriginal heritage.

Flashie, does ancestry cover aboriginal family lines? I know one or two men who could recite their ancestry back many generations - real treasures if you are lucky to have one for a grandfather - but have they been made available on line?

I feel like she contradicts herslef completly, she wanted me to find her, but she doesnt want to find her birth mother. I only say she may be a part of the stolen generation becuase she looks aboriginal to me, but more fair skinned, not dark.
She refuses to believe there is any aboriginal in her and would never admit it, i think its a fear of hers for some reason.
Basically she was adopted, if its has anything to do with the stolen generation, i dont know for 100%sure, but it doesnt matter to me. It matters that i want to find some family, people i can connect to.
I have tried, trust me, but as an adopted person, i only have the will to try so much. I have done a lot fo sole searching, there is a great book called the
PRIMAL WOUND - A must read
It catches the idea that all childern suffer anxiety as a result of being torn away from their mother and suffer connection issues all their life. Its funny becuase i grew up in a tight family, had the best education money could buy and was surrounded by positive things, but it was never enough to fill the "HOLE" i realised i have.
She is not willing to meet me half way, not even 1/10. I honestly dont need to have her in my life. She seemed to get what she wanted, meet me and have a relationship until it all got too hard and she threw me away again. She is selfish and i dont really want to try to talk to her again. If she feels that her privacy over her adoption issue is her own right, then she shouldnt have had kids. Its not just my right to know where i come from, but i have natural brothers as well. They may want to know one day as well. And what about my kids??
Im stuck at square 1, trying to figure out where i come from and what life might be like should i know what i can offer culture wise to my kids.
Even if she has issues thinking about if she was a stolen generation baby, the fact it, she is still adopted and she doesnt know either way. My curiosity and desire should be enough for her to want to share that information with me.
The only choice i have is to go to the SUPREME court, and if i had the money, i would be there in a flash.

She grew up in VIctoria, was born there as it states this on my adoption information, she was born in 62

Darkie...I don't think any records on ancestry make the distinction of being aborginal.

Stiletto....my children see my adoption as my journey....not theirs......I have met my natural mother and was glad I did.....but we did not continue the realtionship.

hi flashie, yes but because i cant meet my father it makes it so much more important for me to find out heritage from her side. it just is really frustrating and i feel a very deep hurt