Well where do i start! I was adopted, have since foound my birth mother, roughly 10 years ago. Now, we had a great relationship up until a year or 2 ago becuase i was wanting to know about my heritage. She was also adopted, and i think one of the "stolen childre" I believe, as well as most people who know me, that i have aboriginal background. In any case, we had a falling out because she couldnt care less about finding out any of her info in the near future until her adoptive mother has passed away. So, im looking for any way i can find out about my natural maternal grandparents. This is mostly because i also have no tie to my birth father. Apparently i was a back seat of th car job with a run away teen mum who doesnt want to disclose any info, so i have no way of finding out any info from that side.Any suggestions?

Stiletto, first, if your mother is aboriginal, then it is not considered a good idea to talk of the dead and that could be why she has clammed up. Also there could be some very painful memories for her if she was part of the stolen generation... child abuse, sexual abuse, the reason you might have been a car back seat result... little girls who were sexually abused so often were sexually developed very young.

Ancestry probably not an easy solution unless you can find a father. The first thing I would do is try and find where your mother was raised and see if you can trace some of your rellies that way. There would surely be some sort of records... then maybe not. They were very harsh times.

So many people have little chance of finding their backgrounds and it's so difficult to accept- as you say you have a right to know.

You might have some luck with these sites

http://www.google.com.au/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=The+aboriginal+stolen+generation&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&redir_esc=&ei=rKwLTpT2Mc-cmQXE7dGvAQ

and

http://www.google.com.au/search?client=safari&rls=en&q=Aboriginal+affairs&ie=UTF-8&oe=UTF-8&redir_esc=&ei=iawLTsfWJ8LemAXY363CAQ

If she was not part of the stolen generation, do you know where she lived as a kid? For instance, NSW, VIC OR QLD.

Frankly, I would make up with her and not mention this wish of yours, just get her to trust you again and wait and see if you can get her to talk about her past. Sooner or later, if you are patient and kind she will let something slip that you might be able to trace.

This a case of you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar 🙂

Good luck