@sugar249 wrote:
No one has said it but I will, does anyone really believe that OP got all of these people including strangers to read that thread,
Whether or not there's any truth to it, it's concerning - beyond anything related to the forum itself, and I mean that in an empathetic way towards to OP.
What do I see? I mean it's highly subjective as I can only pick up on things I recognise in myself which may or may not be applicable, i.e. this is a pointed and dramatised version, but I've stewed over perceived injustices myself for a little while, muttered under my breath for a bit, had a shower argument or two over them, probably escalated the injustice / unfairness to myself a little each time, assigned malice to the perpetrators because it's easier to solidify my victimhood, until I came up with (what I thought were) mic-dropping comebacks and turning myself into the hero instead (thus, I metamorphise from an outsider, into The Outsider, the rational and objective one parents warn their bullies about....or something).
It's normal, and healthy - to a degree. It's clearly a coping mechanism for me and a lot of others, one that works well and I get over whatever got under my skin in a day or two and move on, rather than attempt the comebacks in real life - I don't like breaking the fantasy of a self-satisfied & happy ending 😂. I'm not qualified to assess if there are deeper issues here, so I'm trying to be delicate, but ultimately I maintain that it's simply just concerning if that process is ongoing for this amount of time, regardless if it manifested to involving others, so at the end of the day, I hope they find themselves a really good support network and can leave this all behind.
