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@2012happychap wrote:
well you did make an assumption then, as I was purely indicating when the transaction was complete for the buyer, 

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I made no assumptions at all - I was not trying to tell you what you think, I was trying to show you how what you think re: buyer's obligations applies in the reverse.

I was trying to get you to broaden your perspective a little, because most sellers can't and don't make business decisions based on what a few buyer think should - or want to - happen. It's not about what you do as an individual, it's about how a seller chooses to run and manage their business concerning all buyers, which they have every right to do. 

So you pay for an item. Great. Talk to myriad sellers who have had plenty of buyers who didn't let an item remain paid for. If you contact a seller when there's a problem, and are reasonable, polite and respectful, fantastic, but talk to some sellers who have had to deal with upteen buyers who are anything but. Maybe you don't see certain post-sale behaviours like politeness, reasonable expectations, non-demanding, non-harassing over minor or non-issues, feedback extortion, fraudulent chargebacks and PayPal claims... Maybe, when you take a moment to look at how/why sellers reach these decisions, you won't feel like you're owed feedback when you want it.

Personally, as I buyer I feel I do have certain responsibilities in a transaction after I've paid, but even if I didn't, I still respect my fellow traders enough to respect their choices when it comes to things they have every right to choose on their own, rather than decide everyone should do things the way I want them to be done.