Thank you all. This is why I came here in the first place. She has been difficult from the start.

Most times you can delicately work your way to a solution with a pick up, even when the seller is not really keen on parting with the item (as I have experienced in the past - and saw another thread about on here just recently from a seller that had changed his/her mind about wanting to sell).

A while ago I posted about a new seller that wanted more money after the auction ended. In that instance, with your help, we managed through careful and diplomatic explanation of how eBay works to have a successful outcome. I think I called that thread "seller wants more money", but I am not sure. More recently another seller made it impossible to arrange pick up, and told me her listing was against eBay policy. I knew it was a complete lie. The seller was unhappy about the sale price in that instance too. (.99c). I left my first ever negative feedback, but the seller did not leave feedback for me to my knowledge.

Getting back to the case at hand, I am still gobsmacked. I never would have behaved this way at any point in my life. Sure I was young, and yes - I did silly things for a laugh, but they were never mean, nasty or threatening.  My eldest is 13, the youngest is 6. My beautiful special needs child is 8. I worry about what the future holds for them all. So much. I purchased the item in question to provide more options for giving them healthy foods. Certainly not for our family to be threatened. 

I am worried that if I go to the Police, and they contact her, that she may be more inclined to act against us. I have the evidence on my phone, and now on eBay, and I won't be deleting it. I also think the Police may find it too petty to deal with. What is very scary to me, is probably very mundane to them. People make threats all the time without acting on them. For the receiving party, it is very scary, in case it is acted on, but the majority of cases are probably just words. 

I really want eBay to leave the feedback that I left for her on her profile for all to see. I want the false positive on mine removed. (Oh, and I want a darned food slicer to chop things really finely for my particularly fussy eater!!!) 🙂

I am going to sleep on it all tonight. Tis late, I'm tired, and perhaps the morning will bring with it some clarity, and I will arrive at a decision about whether to go to the Police or not. Any further comments/advice are welcome. 

Good night all, and happy chatting/debating/solving/learning etc that we all do in communities like these.

J xxx