i'd really like to hear from someone like PJ or one of the other board aficionado's as to where they think i stand or what i should do?

Even though i probably wont like what i hear, lol.

You know, if a refund alone had've been ordered i would'nt have been happy but i'd have copped it.

Its the the return postage im really insulted about.

Surely it being the buyers mistake they can at very least pay to return the item?