I opened an UPI a few days ago on my newest account, which was due to be closed tonight. I sent the lady a message last night (16 FB) asking her if she was planning on paying for this item. I also said that if she'd changed her mind that is OK, but she needs to let me know. I said that if the open dispute closes, she will find her ability to buy from a lot of sellers difficult and and will have a black mark against her account. If she accumulates too many of these black marks, eBay will stop her from buying altogether.

I then went on to say that sellers don't mind if buyers change their mind, you just need to let them know. Ignoring it won't make it go away. I said that if she was having trouble paying or needed more time, then that is OK too, but let me know before the dispute closes. Once it closes, that's it.

I sent that message a bit after midnight. Within 15 minutes I got an email, she paid! Hopefully I put the wind up her enough whereby she won't take 7 days to pay for something in future, or at the very least, contacts the seller in the event of a payment delay.

The same buyer I mentioned above has hit all my accounts again. Maybe she thought it was a glitch that she couldn't buy last time so is trying again (altbough the previous hits were over several days). I wonder what message they see? It would be great if it was something like "You're a bad, bad, bad buyer, this seller doesn't deal with bad buyers. Norty buyer!".