So for my next update i will have to paraphase what eBay has responded with because i have been contacted by a moderator and told i cannot post any communications with eBay on here. 

they are basiclly telling me to work it out with the buyer who of course is unresponsive. funny advice eBay has given 

• Ensure that the estimated delivery date is accurate when listing an item

The delivery date was a standard post which they estimate not me. 

I am going to wait for the item to be delivered at this stage before i persue this further. 

eBay has agreed the item is still in transit and will be delivered, they reccomened i send the buyer an invoice which is just laughable consider the buyer was demanding a refund in the first place. 

I can't stress enough to any sellers who have high value items not to ship internationally at this point in time if you cannot take the loss.