Oh dear it makes sense what you said  and all the other helpful replies with accepting return and I know thats what I should do to keep my selling record perfect  but I have not had any strikes on my account before and just thinking one may not make much difference.  Last night and earlier today  I was ready to refund  but now feel  I want to stand up for myself .

Will keep you updated, I have until tomorrow to make a decision.  Stand up for whats right or give in to a dodgy buyer .  Plus I am keeping in mind the advice from your helpful posts regarding accepting return and know that is what I need to do to avoid a strike..  At the moment I am waiting to hear back from buyer in reply to my message as on the Return Request was an option to send message to Buyer.   Nothing as yet.

This is going through my mind  - Pride comes before a Fall

Thank you