I dont have a problem of sending the item but i would much prefer to send it when the payment has been processed, i am just worried that if i send it and then ebay says its declined then i have sent there item and they dont have to pay for it, i think once its been on it for awhile might help with the doubts and everything. 

Just annoyed at the declined and seeing exactly how long it takes to get payments so i can decide what is the best way