I suggest you list with immediate payment required on the shoes as there's a good chance you'll be messed around again.

https://www.ebay.com.au/help/selling/listings/creating-managing-listings/immediate-payment-works?id=...

And  also, being a new seller, a buyer may try to take advantage of you, so you'll need to be careful.

Have you registered to sell and signed up for managed payments ?

https://www.ebay.com.au/help/selling/getting-paid/registering-seller?id=4792&srsltid=AfmBOoqTy9PSVUO...