what a horrible start to eBay for you.

I have looked at the listing and not only have you said they are girls pyjamas in your title, but it also says it again in your listing!

The person must need braille if they thought the listing was for ladies sizes.

at least she has told you that she doesn't want them and hasn't just strung you along.

but if you don't cancel the order you do risk her being unfairly angry with you and if she leaves you a negative, you are so new that it will really hurt your feedback score.

This woman does deserve a strike for non payment. and you can't force her to pay. (not for $7, anyway)

I wouldn't be kind enough to let her off the hook by offering a mutual cancellation (which if she doesn't accept BTW, you will not get your fees back.
 (but then maybe you are more kind than I am.
)

If it were me, I would think very hard about opening a non payment dispute in the resolution centre. This way she will either pay (but she can leave you feedback then and if she is cross at being "forced" she may neg you) or she won't and you will get your FVF's back and no feedback will be able to be left and she will get a strike.

If you do this, send her a message saying something like......

I am happy to cancel the sale for you. In order to be able to relist and get the fees back that I will be charged for this sale, I have to let eBay know that you want to cancel the sale and won't be paying, in the resolution centre. It has an awful name, but please don't be alarmed. it will be called an Unpaid Item Dispute. I will open it 4 days from when the auction finishes, and eBay will then give you another 4 days to decide if you want to change your mind and pay for the item that you bid on. If you still don't want the pyjamas, there is no need for you to do anything else. I will close the case on November 27 (?) and then eBay will allow me to relist the item and I will get a credit for the fees that I have incurred for this sale. eBay will then record a strike against your account for non payment, but don't be worried about that, strikes only matter once you get 2 of them. So it is all good!

Have a nice day.....

Then immediately put her on your blocked bidders list.

You can't relist them until the listing has been cancelled. What a shame you have encountered such a numpty when you are so new.

Fingers crossed for you that your future sales go much more smoothly.

One thing I would recommend if you are going to be selling clothes is that you do put their measurements in the listing, ok? (I know it wouldn't have helped much this time, but, in future it might)