Yeah you can & it does work.As you said,I've done it a couple of times before but never got called on it.

Digi thanks you have great ways on managing people politely without causing offence.I kinda think of you as Judge Ghosty lol.I've got that setting already on but cos she put a bid on she can contact me.

CQ,thanks also,that's probably how i was thinking of it.but I'm a tad blunt & not as charming in written word as in person.

Thanks all,i will make a blended version of what you all suggested to msg her tomorrow oh yeah today i mean.