Keep on with the not paid dispute.  If she doesn't pay, there will be no red dot.  I'm not sure whether you should reply to her either.

Somewhere on the forums I read that Paypal closed a dispute the same day as it was opened, but I can't remember what the reason was.

With the pendant description, if it was me I'd put 'pendant type' to cover some people who don't read the description or look at the photo properly, or read something into the advert that's not there.  

I have a some problems with a few buyers who are looking at the listings with a mobile phone & can't be bothered rolling down the listing - even some only look at the photo/s.

I'm no longer selling internationally & I'm blocking all overseas buyers - I'm slowly going thru my listings to take out the reference to NZ as well, which was in the description.