Thank you Harley. I just realized that in her last email to me demanding I pay for return of parcel she has told me to amend address slightly (from one listed with paypal/ebay). here is part of her message
"just send back as same address and put shopping (sic) name tailor to clothing alterations"
whilst it is probably helpful, I'm reluctant to alter official address from that listed with paypal/ebay. any more advice gratefully received