hi

coming from someone who has an autistic child(adult now)and 1 still young child

i would speak to the parents first

and explain the situation

no all autistic people are the same their are different ranges and types

and if you dont phrase it correctly it can be taken the wrong way by some with autism

please speak to the parents first if that doesnt work then speak to someone who is trained

to work with autistic people with different ranges

and no is not the way you would speak to just anyone else

you need to remember they have in laymans term a click in the brain(easy explanation)its so much more

and phrasing is so important.also if you want them to do something(break it down)

they might not take to much in at once depending on the individual

like::

1::can you please take this blue pen out of my hand

2:now can you please put the blue pen in your hand on your desk

this i have found works wonders

tara