@lyhargr_0 wrote:
@chameleon54 wrote:
@lyhargr_0 wrote:
Given your siblings and mother would all have know how he had treated both yourself and your sister, thus if you had chosen not to attend his funeral surely they would have understood your reason/s and respected them. The whole saga, being a pall bearer etc, comes across as totally hypocritical to me but each to their own.
One thing I did learn from my fathers behaviour is that hanging onto hate and carrying feelings of vengence and revenge is pretty unhealthy. It can eat people up, damaging them, much more than the person who has wronged them.
Oh I agree ..... we all deal with things in our own way Personally I walk away from toxic people and that would include not attending their funeral 'cause they would have already been dead to me
Yes we deal with things in our own way, and the way we choose to deal with personal and emotional matters should be respected rather than denigrated.
