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@imastawka wrote:

I've always said that just because they're dead, it doesn't make them a good person.

 

People don't like to speak ill of the dead.

 

But if they were right mongrels in life, so they are still, when they're gone.

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Funerals can be tricky things. Its not just about the person who has died. It is a time of mourning for those left behind. This is especially the case where a parent may have treated one or more children in an appaling manner, while doting on others. Funerals are a time for raw emotions and I have seen families torn apart when past differences are allowed to surface at a funeral.

In the interests of respect for the wider family it is often best just to shut up, suck it up and respectfully go through the motions, allowing others to grieve in a way that they need too. There will be plenty of time to discuss how you really feel later.